Can a baby be given up for adoption by the birth mother without the birth father’s consent?
ByA friend of mine who is the birth father wants his baby but the birth mother wants to give it up for adoption.I am from Alberta.I don’t know the adoption laws.The adoption agency keeps phoning him and putting pressure on him but he does not want the baby to go for adoption.Also is there any money in it for the agency for them to keep harassing him?
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12 Comments
April 19th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
HEL YEA!
April 19th, 2010 at 5:25 pm
Definitely; ultimately it’s the birth mother’s decision.
April 19th, 2010 at 6:00 pm
Tell him to get a lawyer – fast.
An adoption agency will do all they can to get a baby.
It’s their bread and butter. (they make money from getting babies for prospective adoptive parents desperate for a child)
Also make sure he registers on any punitive father registry in the state he lives – and any nearby state that the mother may be sent to to give birth. (yes – they sometimes ship them off to have the babies so that you’re not registered there)
Again – get a lawyer.
Is he willing to parent the child??? Has he family support????
Here’s a booklet he should read –
http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf
April 19th, 2010 at 6:20 pm
not unless his recognized the baby
if the baby has his last name and he is also being responsible for the baby expenses that way the mother has no excuse into giving the baby in adoption he can fight legally for the baby if he really loves the baby that’s for sure don’t let the adoption agency let him down good luck and of course sometimes adoption agency deal in someway to give money to the mother when giving baby’s on adoption
do you know how many parents want to adopt and they would pay any price maybe she is doing it for the money or who knows what
tell him is not worth to loose his baby for a couple of dollars she will regret it in the future if that happens what if the baby grows up to be some Professional doctor president who knows every kid brings a mystery now good luck with this i know everything is gonna work out fine
April 19th, 2010 at 6:37 pm
I don’t know about Canada, but in the U.S. the father would have to legally relinquish his parental rights before the child could be placed for adoption. It is probably the same in Canada.
April 19th, 2010 at 7:02 pm
NO! They can’t force him to sign anything! They HAVE to stop calling if he asks!!! I sent you an email pls read it and contact me if you want advice or help dealing with this agency. I’m in Alberta too and I know what they can and can’t do, I also know what his rights are.
ETA
There is TONS of money in it for the agency to keep harassing him! They get a huge payment as long as the baby is adopted! I hate to say it but I have dealt with Albertan agencies and they are as money hungry as any other. They probably won’t let up until they break him down and get his child.
April 19th, 2010 at 7:10 pm
I don’t know how things work in Alberta, but my cousin whom is more like my little sister placed her daughter for adoption last year and the biological father was not going to go along with it. The agency tried contacting him, tried to have him sign his rights away but he wasn’t doing it. In the end, a few months before the baby was born they took the case in front of a judge and had his rights taken away. This was done in Florida. Now, before people go harping “That was so wrong!” or “Oh my gosh, the poor guy!” He was very abusive, a drug addict and had his rights taken because in the almost nine months of her pregnancy never provided a single cent for her or the baby, didn’t get a job and was pretty much a dead beat.
So there truly are two sides to every story. I don’t think an agency has the right to harass ANYONE. But if he’s seriously wanting to keep his child I would think getting a lawyer to fight it is the best choice. Good luck to your friend.
April 19th, 2010 at 7:39 pm
No adoption Agency is going to put a baby up without the father’s consent, as it would be unethical, and he could contest the adoption afterwords. If he doesn’t want the baby put up for adoption, then he has to make a claim for sole custody himself, and be prepared to actually take care of the child. It is his right legally.
And yes, the adoption agency makes money.
April 19th, 2010 at 8:03 pm
Fathers have rights 2. He would have to sign that he does not want the baby.
April 19th, 2010 at 8:22 pm
He needs a lawyer, and fast. He should also go to the largest TV and newspaper around him and let them know what the agency & his baby’s mother is doing to him. He needs to act fast and have it documented NOW.
April 19th, 2010 at 8:49 pm
Does Canada have a putative father’s registry?? That is where the putative father (father not married to mother) would register stating he thinks the baby is his, gives the moms name and his information….Some states in the U.S. have this and if the father does not register, then sometimes he is just out of luck and the adoption can proceed as if there is no known father…..
If he wants his baby then he should be able to have his child and no questions asked. As all have said already…he needs to lawyer up and make his voice heard.
April 19th, 2010 at 9:00 pm
i dont think she can do that,but he needs to get a lawyer. Is his name on the birth certificate? if so, it’ll be harder for her to do that.