How can one be so happy with adoption as it is now practiced?

So many people thin kthat adoption is a beautiful, wonderful thing, that gives every child the chance at a great life- chances are less than slim. Unfortunately most that preach adoption know nothing about it.

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No one expects anyone to be happy about this stuff, and wants it to change. You cannot link all adoptive parents in with these instances but we can use them for adoption change. To paint all adoption issues as these woudl be similiar to saying that bio parents who kill and abuse their children are an example of why all kids should be taken from their parents. It just doesn’t work that way. There is no broad paint brush to cover all adoption either for or against.

As for natural parents rights being violated, I still am not understanding, where are the violated rights if they are choosing adoption as their plan? Or in our case where are their rights when they have neglected their children?

As said on various portions of YA the most important voice is that of the children.

ETA Bizzie: There is more (or here in Canada there is mroe) to a homestudy than psychological testing, you have five references, full medical records, full police records, long painful interviews, record checks of your invovlement in child services, 60 hours of classes and more. I am not say;ing it is perfect, but just wanted to clarify the process is not, at least here, an easy pass.

What birth parent rights? Yeah you got me there, I have as many rights now as I did when my child was coerced out of my arms. But just remember the saintly person I was before I singed over those papers… and remember that in that 10 seconds I went from saint to whore, selfless to selfish, caring mother to crack addicted pond scum.

Adoption is sick and twisted the way it is practiced today… as sick and twisted as how it was practiced years ago when my own mother went through the exact same thing when she relinquished me.

I’m sick of people using my place in adoption as a way to deny adoptees their birth records. I am sick of PAPs who just want a baby, “GIMME A BABY DAMMIT!!! GIVE ME ONE NOW!”, I’m sick of social workers who claim to want the best for the child only to ignore reports of abuse in foster homes, I’m sick of children being adopted only to be returned like a bad fitting pair of stiletto heels, I’m sick to death of adoption in general and those who aren’t should wake up and smell the corruption.

I’m not happy with adoption, not my own or my son’s and not the adoptions that are happening right now. I’m done playing the nicey nicey game too.

ADOPTION SUCKS!

I have AP friends who tell me that even though it’s a lengthy process, people who shouldn’t be allowed to adopt could easily fake their way through. Even though there are abusive adopters and abusive bio parents, because adopters are supposed to be approved, there is an expectation that abusers, alcoholics, pedophiles and the like won’t get through. Of course, that’s not the way it is, and it’s not rare, either.

I think the reason why there are people who don’t want to admit that this is a reality is because they know that the non-qualified shouldn’t get through. It’s terrible to think that they readily can. Does that mean we have to dump adoption completely? No. But it does mean that there is a need for it to be improved greatly.

As far as OBC access, well I’m a broken record on that one, but I don’t care. That record needs to be heard. Biological parents have no say in whether or not OBC’s are sealed. Again, biological parents have no say in whether or not OBC’s are sealed.

OBC’s are NOT sealed when parents give up their children for adoption. Again, OBC’s are NOT sealed when parents give up their children for adoption. OBC’s ONLY SEAL IF AND WHEN AN ADOPTION FINALIZES IN THE COURT.

Sealing OBC’s is about the adoption, not the relinquishment.

We see how bio parents are viewed and how the way they are viewed changes depending on which side of the birth they are — before the birth or after the birth. Before the birth they are selfless and wonderful. After the birth, they are crack addicts and whore for having sex. I’ll bet no one else but “birthmothers” ever had sex before marriage, right? Did you really think they’d seal the OBC for the bio parent? Get real.

Adopted citizens are the only citizens denied the basic right to their own birth certificates in 44 states. Six states do not discriminate against adopted citizens. People given up by their parents for adoption, but not adopted, keep their birth certificates — they aren’t sealed. These people don’t get amended ones. Why, then, is the act of adoption an act that takes this right from people?

Why are people happy with adoption as it is now practiced? I have no idea. Perhaps they aren’t so very interested in how it plays out for the adopted person. Perhaps their only concern is that “a family is formed.” Does it matter if it’s a good family or not? Some people can never accept that all adoptive families aren’t good. That would somehow make the loss of the original family less worth it.

Americans hide from the truth because most are too busy farting rainbows about adoption. The drug of choice for Americans is the “happy ending”.

Why are pediophiles allowed to adopt? They have the money to purchase their child sex slaves and the adoption industry in the US is unregulated. Why would like the likes of Jeannene Smith dig too deeply into the qualifications of her customer when he is waving cash under her greedy “facilitating” nose?