How can we support adoption and people who plan to adopt and people who are in need of adoption?

You can donate some money to me to help pay for the costs, which average around 20K

Why would anyone want to support an institution that violates a person’t basic human rights? No thanks!

Rather, how can we support families stay together and have the resources they need to prevent or rehabilitate alcoholism, drug abuse etc before it hurts their children? How can we support young mothers to raise their children whilst still getting an education? Now that is the question you SHOULD be asking.

Here is how I think we can do this (and what I hope I am doing):

We can support ETHICAL ADOPTION by returning it to a SOCIAL SERVICE for CHILDREN in need of a loving home because they are either TRUE orphans (meaning they have NO LIVING OR FIT relatives) or they have had the misfortune of being permanently removed from abuse and/or neglectful situations after due process.

We can support people who plan to adopt by helping them become honestly educated about adoption and its issues and encouraging ONLY ethical adoption practices. I feel that unethical adoptions deserve no support whatsoever.

We can support people (children) who are in need of adoption (ie: true orphans and foster children who’s parents’ rights have been terminated by the court due to abuse and/or neglect and have no fit family available to care for them in many ways such as:

*By encouraging adoption from foster care. Especially for teens and special needs children.

*Educating the public about adoption/foster care/family issues and ethics in an honest and thorough manner in order to give these children the best possible scenario from which to find a loving family as well as an understanding community in which to live.

*By volunteering time with these children via reputable programs such as GAL/CASA, Big Brothers, Big Sisters, etc. or by becoming involved with your local schools, tutoring, mentoring, etc.

*By donating items or gift cards for the children to your local DSS foster care program to distribute. (Many of these children have few possessions including clothing and school supplies.)

*By supporting their human right to retain access to their original birth certificates, medical records and personal history, foster care records and identity.

*By calling for adoption reform to return it to the actual social service it was intended to be: Finding suitable homes for children who are truly in need.

*And finally, by helping reduce the numbers of those who NEED adoption by, again: Educating yourself and others about family issues, including adoption, and by supporting the families in your community through friendship and encouragement.

The best “help” is to eliminate it all together.

Eliminate “unwanted” children.
Teach BIRTH CONTROL in schools. Teaching “abstinence” is silly and not working. Teens are still getting pregnant.

Make birth control cheap and easy to get. For everyone. No questions asked.

Support poor, young, uneducated mothers so they can raise healthy children.

Make matching adoptive parents and children more like they do on “E-Harmony”, and less picking and choosing for the whitest, womb-wet babies. Compatibility. What does the PAP have to offer the child? Not money. Experience. Education. Personality type(s).

But, that doesn’t address the people who aren’t fit to raise houseplants, much less children. Addicts, abusers, and other “mental defectives” should be given ONE chance to be a good parent. ONE chance! You’re kid is taken from you, and you are found guilty of abuse or neglect, your parental rights are instantly terminated, and you’re kid is adopted by someone more qualified. No more “yo-yo”ing kids in and out of bad situations.

You can start by separating the agendas & wants of the first 2 groups you mention from the needs of the third.

The conflicts of agendas within adoption have created human rights abuses in case you haven’t caught on already.