How common is it for ppl to approach expecting mothers about adoption?
Byhow often do pregnant women get approached about giving their babies up for adoption? Im not talking about women who are at an adoption agency, but women who are at the market or a retail store etc. just out of the blue.
i ask because my sister said this happened to her when she and her friends were at the mall. She told me to be aware of it since I am pregnant. She said that people approach young expectant mothers and she said its usually agency people or couples looking adopt. It just seems a little odd to me and I didnt think it was a common occurance.
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10 Comments
April 22nd, 2010 at 9:55 pm
I got it twice actually. I think because i am so young though. One time it was a rude old lady, who said something like “i hope you’re giving that poor innocent child up for adoption, so he/she doesn’t have a kid raising him/her”. Then i actually had a younger woman come up to me, and told me politely that her and her husband were looking to adopt..and asked if i was considering giving mine up for adoption. But either way, i think it’s rude. You do those kinds of things through an adoption agency.
April 22nd, 2010 at 9:56 pm
I’ve been pregnant four times, it has never happened to me or anyone I know.
April 22nd, 2010 at 10:24 pm
I am 33 weeks into my 2nd pregnancy and that has NEVER happened and I would be appalled if it did.
OMG @ the first answerer! I would have been so mad and definitely would not have been nice, old lady, young lady, or the Queen of England…. that is just horrible!
April 22nd, 2010 at 11:19 pm
Infertiles would do anything for a baby. They would kidnap them if they thought they could get away with it.
April 22nd, 2010 at 11:43 pm
I have never heard of anyone doing that…unless something was wrong with them. I never had anyone do that while I was pregnant. Somene would have to be desperate to approach some random pregnant woman and ask if she was giving her baby away…
April 23rd, 2010 at 12:33 am
I think it depends on the area.
Where I live, it wouldn’t happen, because we don’t really have private adoption; it’s all handled by government. So there would be no benefit to approaching a woman, since if she relinquished it would be to either a relative or foster care. (Which some people do, of course.)
However, I’ve heard of solicitation happening frequently enough to people in other areas to believe it happens. I think it just depends on the cultural standards and expectations, and the laws about relinquishment and private adoption.
April 23rd, 2010 at 12:37 am
It is a common practice for the adoption industry to tell potential adopters to “put the word out” that they are looking to adopt. Pap’s enlist the help of their family, friends, co-workers, fellow church members, etc… to find expectant women.
The problem is, they have no control over what these people do or to what extent they go to “help” in their cause.
On top of that, agencies, lawyers and facilitators enlist their own volunteers or representatives to scour schools, college campuses, dorms, etc.. any place expectant women might be.
I know expectant mothers who have been approached at malls, grocery stores, libraries, post offices, churches, doctors offices, holiday events, sporting events, while dining out, walking home from class and including being approached at work.
April 23rd, 2010 at 1:07 am
In real life??? Almost never
Here on Y/A??? There’s a “Me too” complex. One person says it happened to her and then people who NEVER mentioned it happening to them, starts having flash backs. SO surprise.
I’d say it happens rarely, but 1 time is too much.
I Sh!t you not. There was a post on YA complaining about being approached at Wal-mart about her baby THEN she turns around and does the SAME thing to another woman. Now THAT woman can say she was approached. SCANDALOUS I say.
Wal-mart does seem to be a hot spot for people being approached about their baby.
April 23rd, 2010 at 1:31 am
I was a pregnant teenager in the 90’s and I was never approached by anyone wanting to adopt my baby. I can’t say how common or uncommon it is. It just didn’t happen to me.
April 23rd, 2010 at 1:54 am
I also don’t think it happens often.
In the last 5 years, 2 members of my scrapbooking group were approached. They were teachers, but looked very young. In both instances, they called police from their cell phones and I know one woman was criminally charged. She was convicted of something, but I don’t remember what – stalking I think. The cops said that it was very uncommon that someone REPORTED it, not that it is uncommon.
If this happens, call the cops. You are being cased not unlike a burgler cases homes with intent to burglarize.