If abortion were illegal and adoption were the only other choice?
ByWould you make that choice knowing that more than 134,000 children are available for adoption in the US? Knowing that each year your child’s chances of being adopted drop significantly? Knowing that most infertile couples want to adopt a newborn and not an older child?
Having an abortion or placing your child up for adoption is one of the hardest choices any of us can make. Why do we condemn those who do one and not the other. Abortion is NOT a form of birth control. Adoption is NOT a form of birth control either, but many people advocate it every time they hear someone is pregnant.
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15 Comments
April 26th, 2010 at 5:13 pm
A newborn will almost always find a home. Right now couples wait years to adopt looking for a new born. The kids that wait are the kids in foster care who are 6 and above each year above 6 the chance of being adopted is decreased.
April 26th, 2010 at 6:01 pm
Not all women get abortions because they don’t want children. What are your opinions about international adoption? It seems to me that it’s easier for parents here in the US to adopt internationally than for parents in other countries to adopt children from America… interesting? Coincidence? Something to think about.
April 26th, 2010 at 6:28 pm
really not sure what your question is really…. ummm if abortion were illegal then people who wont break the law wont have a choice if they aren’t prepared to keep the baby…this seems like a pro-choice rant rather than any kind of question
April 26th, 2010 at 6:56 pm
Personally, I would choose adoption. Yes, the child will have to wait for a family to adopt them, but at least they will be alive. Once they learn about abortion, if their in the foster system then at least they’ll have the knowledge that their birth parents cared enough to give them the chance at a good life.
With an abortion, it’s just the end for the baby. They’ll never get the chance to play or cry or feel any kind of love or emotion ever.
April 26th, 2010 at 7:35 pm
Sadly not even all newborns are welcome, the largest adoptive Market is white middle class people. White middle class people generally would like healthy white babies, Unfortunately that leave a lot of babies still in social services.
Abortion isn’t a form of birth control. On a mass scale adoption isn’t a viable alternative. Social services is already burdened with older children, infants with difficulties and otherwise “undesirable” children.
If the state is ready to raise a few extra hundred thousand kids – certainly outlaw abortion, however I feel that is not the case.
April 26th, 2010 at 8:32 pm
Adoption, in my opinion, is still better than an abortion. No child is unwanted, even those older children in foster care waiting for a home. I, personally, would adopt a foster care child instead of a newborn, and plan on it someday down the road. Even if those children grow up and out of foster care, they can still be of value to society.
I condemn those who choose abortion to dodge responsibility. You said most infertile couples want a newborn. Well, there goes a newborn that one of those couples could have had if the person chooses abortion. It’s not just the people that get abortions that I condemn, it’s the parents (because most of the time, it’s a scared teen getting an abortion) too. They need to be teaching some sex ed to their kids and giving them information about contraceptives. They’re going to have sex whether their parents want them to or not if they want to. If they’re going to have sex, at LEAST do it safely. They can’t know about safe sex if parents don’t talk to them about it.
April 26th, 2010 at 8:57 pm
I fathered my two boys and adopted my daughter and I am Pro- Choice.
Whenever I see a car with an anti-choice bumper sticker (usually having narrowly missed running over my kid in the parking lot running to get that parking spot not caring who they kill in the process) I always ask the driver how many kids they have adopted. Not once have I gotten a positive response.
April 26th, 2010 at 9:24 pm
What’s the alternative then? Going on welfare with your kids and having them taken away anyway? I’m talking about the women that just can’t raise a baby, that got raped, that are poor. i dont think they should be having sex in the first place but honestly if they got raped at 14 you really except them to keep that baby? Knowing the father did the worst possible thing ever? Theres SO many couples that can’t concieve and would adopt. I know most want baby’s though you are abosolutely right, as i got older in foster homes the less interested people were in me.
April 26th, 2010 at 9:25 pm
Adoption will never be the only option as far as I’m concerned. I don’t know all the things fatal to a fetus but I know theres plenty of things fine for women but terminal for a fetus that I can ingest. I’d just do that.
1.2 million abortions are done yearly. Do you really think there are 1.2 million people ready to become parents every year that will choose to adopt? I think not. The only reason there seem to be so many people available to adopt is because the government regulates who can and can’t adopt. If all the parents who were not allowed to adopt because they didn’t meet government standards were allowed to adopt (including homosexuals and single parents) then abortion being illegal would seem good at first… but eventually the adoptive parent pool would be used up. Then the majority of the babies born after the adoptive parent pool is used up will pretty much have no other option than to be dumped in orphanages till they age out of the foster system at age 18.
April 26th, 2010 at 9:35 pm
i never thought of it that way but i do agree with you•
April 26th, 2010 at 10:08 pm
For me I guess I have a hard time with abortion because of the fact that I have seen that it is a CHILD not tissue. It just feels like murder. I am sorry I am not saying that I have the right to decide this for others but I had a still born baby at 21 weeks. She was a baby. I just know I could not do this but I will not judge others for their choices. I just wish that more people would decide to give their children life and choices than just getting rid of it. I know I will get attacked for this thought but there it is.
April 26th, 2010 at 10:55 pm
As cold as this may sound, the number of healthy drug free white babies available for adoption may be at an all time low.
The number of babies with fetal alcohol syndrome, drug dependency at birth, physical and mental challenges is still hanging right in there.
Reality, for whatever the reason not all women have the circumstance
to raise a child properly. The decision to give up that pregnancy whether adoption of abortion is against the nature of women.
It becomes the hardest choice a woman must make, perhaps in her lifetime. In general “society” should get out of her way when she is attempting to do what’s best for herself.
It never stops, the pressure from people who will take no responsibility for their dictates which are based upon their own opinions and “morality”.
They always have the answers, for other people.
April 26th, 2010 at 10:59 pm
I think you need to be better informed. Your child will not be just waiting aroound. If you go with an agency you personally choose the family your child will go to. So, maybe you should be less ignorant in your questions and fully research the topic area first?
April 26th, 2010 at 11:34 pm
I think, adoption is a choice made by a couple who’s not that lucky enough to be given a child. It’s difficult to make a decision of having a child whom you think did not came from you at all.
Abortion on the other hand is a sin for me even though it’s an accident that brought you in that situation. Most teenagers tend to just waste that life being given to them by God.
April 27th, 2010 at 12:32 am
Personally, I think that giving up a child for adoption is a much harder choice than we give it credit for being. The only reason I’d give up a child for adoption would be that I knew they’d be provided better opportunities elsewhere. Being an African-American woman, I wouldn’t choose to put my child into that system, knowing that the child would be much less likely to be adopted and much more likely to go from foster home to foster home until he/she ages out of the system. I’d probably rather take my chances raising the child with what little resources I have. At least I would know the child would have a loving home. I am one of those people, though, that makes too much money to qualify for any sort of government program to help with food or affordable housing, but makes too little to adequately (in my estimation) support a child on my own, assuming no involvement on the part of the father, which would force me to likely pick up a second job and spend less time with the child.
However, if abortion were illegal, more women would simply have illegal and potentially unsafe abortion risking their bodies and lives.