“Just put the kid up for adoption”?
ByQuestion by Bush Invented the Google: “Just put the kid up for adoption”?
Do people who use this argument have any idea what it’s like for a child to grow up in the system in this country, bouncing from foster home to foster home, no sense of permanency to his or her life? People adopting kids largely want little white babies. So what happens to the rest of them?
Yep. Thinking about what’s “best for the child,” aren’t we?
kitten: I can answer your question. Because China’s adoption rules are far less strict than America’s. I know someone who has adopted two kids from Thailand, and that is exactly why she did it. She and her husband, in their late 30s, were considered “too old” to adopt here in the U.S. And every adult I know who was adopted as a child is really, really screwed up.
Leogirl: I don’t need support for abortion. It’s not illegal to have an abortion.
Best answer:
Answer by jhl
With all the childless couples in the nation, there is a very good chance that child would go to a loving home instead of growing up knowing they are a botched abortion……
Know better? Leave your own answer in the comments!
Related posts:
13 Comments
February 15th, 2011 at 10:29 pm
some mothers don,t what to give up the child but it,s is better to give it up if a family member doesn,t what the baby.
February 15th, 2011 at 11:10 pm
As someone who is familiar with the adoption system it is not as bad as you say it is. And if everyone wants white babies why do hundreds of parents adopt from China every year?
February 16th, 2011 at 12:06 am
This question didn’t say anything about abortion you dummies. And the asker is right. When ever a kid gets in trouble everyone is quick to say get rid of him. How about other options for kids that no one wants or wants responsibility for? I have a 15 year old son that everyone says to put up for adoption but his family isn’t ready to give up on him yet! Let’s just consider options before jumping in.
February 16th, 2011 at 12:15 am
If you are looking for support of abortion you are not going to get it. Why wasn’t this thought of up front when the act was taking place. Stop an abortion by using protection.
February 16th, 2011 at 12:46 am
Foster homes are not permanent placements for the most part. Parents can get their act together and get custody of their kids again. Adoption is a different issue.
February 16th, 2011 at 1:10 am
I agree, although I’m adopted. I also don’t get why many courts/social services organizations don’t support interracial adoption in the U.S., when a huge number of white couples decide to adopt from China anyway. Alas, “the rest of them” (the children) tend to go into foster care. If these prospective adoptive parents really want to make a difference for a child, rather than selfishly adopting to suit their own needs, they should spend the $20-40,000 they would fork over to adopt out-of-country and take care of a foster child or a child with a disability.
ADDENDUM: Every adult who was adopted as a child (that you know) is screwed up? That’s news to me. But maybe I’m special.
February 16th, 2011 at 1:31 am
It depends on which child you are talking about…I believe the little girl who was a failed abortion should be put up for adoption if her mother doesn’t want her. At least she has a chance in adoption… what is your solution?
February 16th, 2011 at 1:49 am
Well, as a child who went through 13 foster homes and never being adopted who is now a married father to a two year old, I feel I have some permanency. But I suppose in your mind, I should have been suctioned out of my mother and tossed in a dumpster…right?
Just looking at your question it appears you did not have the same experience as me. You probably grew up in a nice home, with at least on parent who cared for you…that being the case, what right do YOU have to judge the worth of those who did not. What makes you an expert on the “system”?
February 16th, 2011 at 1:55 am
Yes. That is a good sensible choice instead of abortion. Millions of people are looking for babies to adopt. A lot of them will adopt outside their race or ethnic group.
February 16th, 2011 at 2:08 am
My son’s adoption became final when he was 6. We very well know his history in foster care.
Your racist assumption is wrong. I know white people who have adopted black and asian babies.
Clearly, you’ve never been around kids enough to understand.
Everyone deserves a chance at life.
February 16th, 2011 at 2:18 am
The people I know who were adopted grew up in loving homes and are not ” screwed up” at all. They love their adoptive parents and are grateful their natural parents gave them up for adoption.
February 16th, 2011 at 3:01 am
Well, if a child is adopted, then they don’t grow up in “the system in this country”. Yes many people want healthy white babies but did you ever consider why? I know my parents want to adopt again, and don’t care about the race, but where they live can prevent them from adopting a baby of a different race. And I don’t know where your friends tried to adopt, but my parents adopted me 13 years ago and they where 46 and 50 so I don’t know why your friends couldn’t adopt. Well whatever, and My parents have also kept foster children for 8 years. Putting a baby up for adoption from newborn will cause a lot less problems for the child later on then just keeping him/her until the state is forced to take them.
February 16th, 2011 at 3:08 am
Yes, of course, it is so much better to kill the child than to give it a chance in life. You have changed my mind. I suggest that we kill only the ones that won’t have a good life. How about that?