Why do people chose to adopt or chose to place a child up for adoption?
ByMe and my friend are having trouble coming up with benefits for adoption. We both think that either abortion or keeping the child would be best. I wanted to know what were reasons others chose to give their baby up for adoption and why would somebody want to adopt?
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17 Comments
April 18th, 2010 at 5:20 am
Usually people who put their children up for adoption are teenagers…and they can’t take care of their child by themselves, so they feel adoption is best.
And people who adopt are usually people who can’t have children of their own.
April 18th, 2010 at 5:31 am
Because they are not ready for a child yet don’t want to kill a baby. Isn’t that obvious.
People adopt often because they are not able to have children themselves. I know a few couples who have adopted due to infertility.
Isn’t that fairly straight forward and obvious?
April 18th, 2010 at 5:49 am
ABORTION is BAD…that is like MURDERING…you want to be the good person that you are…if you can’t keep the baby…give it up for adoption…give it to someone who will love it…ABORTION should of never been legal at all…
April 18th, 2010 at 6:32 am
Because they are retards!
April 18th, 2010 at 6:49 am
Some people put there children up for adoption because they aren’t mentally fit to look after there chrildren; some put there chrildren up for adoption because they don’t want to get an abortion.
People want to adpot because some people aren’t able to have a babies, and feel it’s one of there last options.
Can you please answer my question soon; im going to post it in like 2 secs. Thanks!
April 18th, 2010 at 7:09 am
Some people adopt after infertility, but others would rather adopt a baby or child who needs a home.Adoptive parents view their children as their own & love them just as much as those who give birth. Someone might place a child for adoption because they dont feel ready for a child, or are already a single parent with little money or support, & cant handle another child. They want their children to have a better life than what they feel they can give.
April 18th, 2010 at 7:29 am
First, it’s important to remove the connection between abortion and adoption as they are not two equal choices. Abortion is whether or not to carry a pregnancy. Adoption is whether or not to parent.
The majority of the time you will find those pregnant women who surrender their child to adoption do so because they have fallen into the belief that they will not be “good enough” for their own child. The adoption industry works hard to feed this belief into society and will make sure messages such as, “Your child deserves a loving, stable home” discourage the pregnant women from feeling like she herself will be able to provide the same loving, stable home to her own child.
Women end up surrendering because they are not given the same help to find support and guidance to raise their child as they are to give up their child. And many times, they are brought into the ring of adotpion through the industries aggresive marketing tactics, created to make a pregnant woman believe they are there to help them to decide when truthfully they are there to convince her to surrender her child. A pregnant woman facing an unplanned pregnancy is led to believe the only way she can be a good mother is to lose her child to adoption.
As for who would want to adopt – in infant adoption, you can pretty much guarantee it is couples who can’t have children of their own and have, after trying to get pregnant themselves have decided adoption is the only choice they now have for a child. Usually, they believe that it causes no harm for mother and child to be separated and they adopt under the belief that they are saving or rescuing a child in need instead of seeing the truth that they are contributing to the coercive and manipulative practives of the billion dollar adoption industry.
April 18th, 2010 at 7:39 am
adoption is best for pregnant teenagers. not throwing them in an orphanage, but contacting a social worker and asking about parents that would like to adopt.
and adults also put their kids up for adoption when they aren’t capable of raising the child.
abortion should only be practiced when the mother is at a severe risk.
people choose to adopt because they can’t have babies of their own. or because they think it’d be better to adopt for population control.
there are lots of other answers.
April 18th, 2010 at 7:41 am
There are various reasons why people choose to adopt, just as there are for those who choose to relinquish.
For us, parents who adopted, it wasn’t a matter of infertility. When we decided that we were ready to be parents, we looked at all options, and adoption made the most sense to us. We didn’t feel the need to create, just because we could, when there are children who have already been created, needing a home.
April 18th, 2010 at 8:34 am
There are very many benefits of adoption for both the birth parents and the adoptive parents.
Biological parents may be unable to take care of a child (financially, emotionally, age-wise, logistically – no housing, no health care, no money etc) but may be against abortion for various reasons, may be to late to have a safe abortion, may have wanted to have a child but then their circumstances have changed, e.g loss of partner etc. Many biological parents chose to give the baby up for adoption because they hope to give their child a better life by having him/er adopted. So they do it out of love for their child.
For adoptive parents the benefits are enormous, that’s why there are such long waiting lists for adoption. It often involves infertile people who are unable to have a biological child. But sometimes they may be unmarried or without a partner, or it may be too late to try to have a biological child or they may have genetic risk factors, which would make it dangerous to have a bilogical child. Or even couples wiht a chld or chldren who want to have a bigger family by providing a home to a child who otherwise would not have a family.Another motivation is to not increase world population but to have the experience of raising a child.
These are just some reasons, but as you see, there may be very powerful for both sides.
April 18th, 2010 at 8:40 am
If you are considering the benefits of infant adoption, I am stuck like you. The mother is best off parenting, and if that is impossible, abortion will cause less pain than adoption.
People who want to adopt infants are mostly infertile people who are trying to simulate giving birth as closely as possible.
For children who are in foster care and need homes, adoption may ultimately be their best hope at stability. Preferably the adoption will be by family members so the children will not be raised by strangers.
April 18th, 2010 at 9:34 am
some people are unable to concieve and some people dont want kids since they are too young. or want their kid to have a better life,
April 18th, 2010 at 9:59 am
Well reasons people put their baby up for adoption rather then abortion because, their child will at least get to have a life.
Some people pick adoption because, they are not able to raise a child then so they give the baby to someone who can give the baby a good life.
A parent chooses life out of love. If they can’t raise the child but, they love the baby and want it to have a life.
Another reason for adoption if you don’t want to parent you don’t have to live with the guilt of knowing you killed your child.
Reasons for parenting.
Well you get to watch your child grow.
You get to hear the words I love you mommy. That might not sound like much now but, they are the sweetest words you will ever hear.
You get to watch your child grow into a wonderful adult.
I can’t even express the wonderful thing a child brings to your life.
Everyday I thank God for my children.
Also parenting your child get to have a life.
I wouldn’t do abortion because, you will be killing your child. Okay well lets put it this way could you kill a puppy or a kitten? If you did even if it was an accident could you imagine the guilt and sorrow you would feel. Now imagine if it was a baby. Of course the pain of killing a baby is going to be so much worse. I think that is guilt you will carry for the rest of your life. I have also heard of girls that have an abortion then they can never have kids again.
If you don’t want to keep the baby. If you at least go with adoption you will know you gave your child a chance at life. You gave it to a good family who will love it. Also you won’t have to live with the guilt of abortion for the rest of your life. I am not sure if you are religous or not I am sure abortion must be a really big sin.
Good luck
I will pray for your friend and her baby
April 18th, 2010 at 10:05 am
We choose to adopt because we have the background and desire to help children with medical and special needs.
April 18th, 2010 at 10:13 am
I agree with you, Taylor.
However, I tried to get pregnant and wasn’t able to. I wanted to be a mom so my husband and I adopted our son from foster care. We adopted because we wanted to be parents. Our son needed a home and a family and we gave him one. I’d love to say that we did it for purely unselfish reasons, but we didn’t. We wanted a child to love and care for. It has worked out well, fortunately. We love our son to pieces! He knows he has another family and we talk about them often. He knows he has our support when he wants to search for them…and he will have our help too, if he wants it.
April 18th, 2010 at 10:44 am
I suppose in the end a person does what they think is right but the choice shouldn’t have to be between abortion and adoption. Some people that haven’t gone through adoption or been involved in it some way have difficulty understanding why one would give up their child and it is true it would be a difficult desision. But they feel that they are too young or not yet ready to have the responsibility of raising a child. That dosen’t mean that they wish death upon an innocent baby though.
Then there are the people that wish to adopt. They may be people that just wish to help the children of the world those in foster care, or are unable to have children themselves.
The thing about adoption isn’t that they are giving the child away to ‘just a random family’ but that they’re giving the opportunity of the life of a child to some one else.
I don’t understand why the person would have to keep the child or get an abortion rather than give the child to another family. Adoption is sometimes hard to understand unless given a chance.
April 18th, 2010 at 11:31 am
Wow. Well my parents couldn’t take care of me, money issues drugs etc, so they put me and my twin brother up for adoption.
If they hadn’t given me the chance at life and just had me aborted, i obviously would not be here and the people who adopted me may not have any children, because they were physically unable to and my brother and i were actually a last opportunity for them.
But thanks for thinking that it’s better that i should have just been aborted, since your alternative option of keeping me was not an option for for my biological parents.