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Did your baby “crawl” backwards before they started really crawling?
Posted by: | CommentsQuestion by Austin and Ava’s Mom: Did your baby “crawl” backwards before they started really crawling?
When my daughter is on her belly, she kinda pushes herself backwards in a way that almost looks like a backwards crawl. I will put a toy in front of her just out of her reach, and when she reaches and can’t get it she starts that “crawling” backwards thing. Is this the start of real crawling? My son never crawled, so I have no idea. She is 6.5 months old.
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Answer by softspot100
Yes it’s quite normal don’t worry 
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Your thoughts on letting a baby just “cry it out”…?
Posted by: | CommentsQuestion by Ericka P: Your thoughts on letting a baby just “cry it out”…?
Seems like I keep getting conflicting opinions on this. As a new mom, I’m not sure when or if it’s okay to let my baby cry herself to sleep knowing that she’s clean, pain-free, not gassy or hungry and otherwise comfortable. It’s that darn pacifier that keeps slipping out that drives her to the edge. But at 2am I can’t imagine continuously putting the paci back in her mouth for another night. Any advice?
For those accusing “you started this habit” respondants, I like many mothers I speak with, did not have a choice in giving my baby a pacifier as she had to stay in the NICU after she was born and that is the means the nurses used to soothe her. Unfortunately, the habit was in place before I was even able to hold her for the first time because of a medical emergency. Still, if I had chosen to give her the pacifier, this is fine as well since most literature you read will tell you that babies have a natural need to suck which is why pacifiers work so well. To give them a pacifier IS catering to their natural tendancy. Think before you respond. Thank you.
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Answer by nanook PMK
My thoughts- I would never let my baby cry it out.
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How long do you let your child “cry it out” for?
Posted by: | CommentsQuestion by Mrs Heather Schabby, M&D Goddess: How long do you let your child “cry it out” for?
Just curious to hear other people’s opinions. When you put your child down to nap or bed (between the ages of 4 months and 2 1/2 years only please) how long do you let him/her cry it out before going in and tending to them?
Also, if you *do* go in and tend to them, what do you do?
Thanks guys but I don’t need advice — I’m a childcare provider I know what to do. I was just curious what the majority of people did. 
I find it amusing that you say my method is lazy, when NO WHERE in my question at all does it even once say what my method is.
Way to judge.
LOL — thank you, VPot. 
Kristina: Since you asked my opinion as a PROFESSIONAL who has been working with children for many years, and also has college education on caring for children, I will give it to you.
I do believe in letting children cry it out to a point. If they are sick or injured; different. Children under the age of 4-5 months should not be left to cry it out because they do not have the ability to self soothe yet. However, the ability to learn to self-soothe is PROVEN and necessary.
I believe after 5 months a child should be left to “cry it out” for about 10-15 minutes. If the child is still crying, I feel it is appropriate to go in and check on your child and help soothe.
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Answer by Ars
well honestly i go to them almost immediatly i’m well a concerned parent not my fualt my parents didnt let me cry
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How old should my baby be before I try the “cry it out” method?
Posted by: | CommentsQuestion by Nickaree: How old should my baby be before I try the “cry it out” method?
He just turned 5 months. And used to let me lay him down when he got tired sometimes while he was still awake and he’d cry a bit but fall asleep pretty fast. Then he didn’t want to do that anymore. So I would nurse him, bounce him, sing and shhh him until he fell asleep. But now it’s taking longer and longer to do that and sometimes it doesn’t work. Plus he’s a big boy and my body can’t handle bouncing him like that for 45min straight. I know he’s tired. I’ve tried the cry it out method and he just cries for so long that it makes me feel like I’m being a bad mom to let him cry like that (I don’t let him cry for longer than 30 min). But then I worry that if I go in there and give in I’m just basically telling him that I was neglecting him for the last half hour or that if he cries long enough I’ll eventually come in and get him. He’s fallen asleep crying it out maybe 3 times. I don’t know what to do. Is he too young? Any suggestions?
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Answer by Taryn
This is called the Safe Cry It Out Method:
My doctor told me to get her settled and follow a strict routine!
Always do the same things in the same order(what ever you do to get him settled)
Then lay baby down and tell him good night.
Stay close so you can hear if he chokes ect.
When he has cried for 5 min walk in and sooth with your voice,
when he settles walk out
after 10 min repeat method
then after 15min ect.
This reinforcess that you are near and that he is ok
After about a week of this he should start to get the routine and as you are going through the night time readying he should show signs of getting ready himself. Good luck
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To the person who let her baby “cry it out” you go girl!!!!!?
Posted by: | CommentsQuestion by proud mommy : To the person who let her baby “cry it out” you go girl!!!!!?
I am soooo happy that someone finally said it too! I couldn’t leave a comment because I already used my limit, but I wanted to say thank you! I totally agree with you, there is nothing bad in letting a baby cry it out, it helps build up their lungs, it does not hurt them. I did it with my daughter and she goes to sleep fine by herself now. And no I do not believe that she is going to resent me for doing so. My mom did it to us and we are perfectly fine, actually, we were very independent and well adjusted kids. Not that I am downing other parents about not letting their children cry it out, whatever works for you go for it. I am just saying that I am tired of being called a bad mother for it, and I wanted to thank all the people who agreed with her! Thanks
Also just wanted to add, I make sure my daughter is fed, changed, burped and in no pain before I do this. I don’t just throw her in bed and go “There ya go!” I do kiss her and love her and hold her for a few minutes, and then she knows that it is time for bed when I lay her down and give her kisses and say goodnight
Just to let you guys know that who are still downing us, its not like they cry it out every time they go to bed. My daughter only did it for about a week if not less, and has now gone 2 months without crying herself to sleep. Its not like its an ongoing thing.
Sorry I meant, she has been going to sleep by herself without crying for 2 months.
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Answer by allisonwilliams16
I agree 100%! I am a mom of 2 young children. Crying it out isn’t torture. Some children cry no matter what you do. If they are fed, changed, clean, played with, and they still cry…let em. It is not gonna hurt em. AMEN!!!
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Should I let my 2 year old “cry it out”?
Posted by: | CommentsQuestion by MarieS: Should I let my 2 year old “cry it out”?
My 26 month old just got over being very ill and has since developed a very frustrating habit of waking in the middle of the night and not wanting to go back to sleep. She is fine when she wakes up, she does not need anything, she is not hurting or ill, she is not hungry or in need of anything but sleep. If I let her cry she escalates so loud that the entire house is up. (I don’t mind if letting her cry it out will take care of the problem in a few nights. But I also have a 6 yo who desperately needs her sleep.) We have never been people who co-sleep and will not start now so that is not the answer I am looking for, am merely looking for those that used the ‘cry it out’ method with their 2 yo’s and what their experience with it was. Thanks!
Desperately Tired!
She is still in a crib as she is pretty small. So no she doesn’t actually ‘get out of bed’ she just screams and screams. Patting her back doesn’t work cause if I don’t pick her up she just escalates, so I feel like my even going in the room makes it worse unless I am committed to picking her up and snuggling her. And she gets TONS of love during the day so she isn’t neglected of love.
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Answer by Duckduckgoose
always a tough one. How far is her room from yours? If you called out to her that everything is OK and go back to sleep without going in, would she hear you? Maybe you might need to go to her room and pat her on the back to let her know you are there but no prepared to get her up – before you let her cry it out I mean. Perhaps try this a few nights first. I get that your six year old needs sleep but I would say it is going to take a few nights of no-one getting any sleep until she gets back into a proper sleep pattern. Good luck
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What does it really mean when a woman calls her platonic friend “baby”?
Posted by: | CommentsQuestion by : What does it really mean when a woman calls her platonic friend “baby”?
This has just recently happened in the couple years I’ve known her (my crazy female friend). I’m quite concerned she has targeted me. I’ve suggested other guys for her to get her thrills. While I find her dose of crazy sometimes entertaining, I don’t want in her crazy pants.
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Answer by Alice
More likely she thinks you are her gay best friend.
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why triggers a gay persons mind to lust after kids?
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and calling it “adoption”
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Question by KayLynn: Why is the first question after just having your baby “So are you planning on having more”?
I find that this question has been asked of me, mainly by women who have shown possible signs of jealousy, why do they want to know about more kids?
I should have explained further, the jealousy statement. One woman is 23 and is the step granddaughter of my MIL who just became a biological grandmother when we had our baby. She has made it clear to MIL how jealous she is and said she hoped the baby wasn’t a girl, because she is the only girl. So when she asks if we are having more, I feel it’s odd.?
Another woman is my step sister in law who makes comments constantly, with her sweet soft voice, but if you take her voice out and just hear her words, they are pretty rough. She wants kids but her husband doesn’t, they are 28. She told me maybe she will have kids one day when she is my age, 30.
I am a little on defense because the question is asked by clearly jealous people often, and so i wonder why they want to know this FIRST not that they want to know at all. Thanks
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Answer by Victoria
Maybe they’re just curious about how you’re enjoying motherhood.
Or maybe they’re just making conversation.
What would they be jealous of?
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Should I let my baby “cry it out?”?
Posted by: | CommentsQuestion by sassash: Should I let my baby “cry it out?”?
my baby is only 2 weeks old and the past couple nights she’s screamed and shreiked constantly throughout the night. Usually after a big fart she’s happier. so should I let her cry it out? I haven’t tried it yet. Any other ideas?
I do try to meet all of her needs. If she’s not hungry, doesn’t stop when I hold her, has no temp, isn’t cold or hot, what am I supposed to do?? I’m not trying to get her to sleep throughout the whole night. I just want her to stop crying.
what are mylicon drops? where can I get them?
I ment a normal temperature
she’s breastfed only. No formula
She eats every 2-3 hours and yes I do burp her. I got her to burp 3 times in the middle of the night, but she didn’t stop crying until she farted and pooped. Then, she started up again a little while later.
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Answer by dueinoctwith#3
Babies are not old enough to do the CIO method until atleast 6 months old. At 2 wks old she needs fed every 1-2 hrs and isn’t expected to be sleeping through the night.
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