having a natural child birth?

DONT DO IT!!!

I have two ids, i had my daughter first, had all the meds and epiderol…was great..didnt even shed a tear.

but i had natural childbirth with my son, against my will of course and it was horrible, i didnt even want to hold him afterward..i was so upset and confused. Ithe whole wing could hear my cussing and screaming.

I will never do it again and I suggest you think about it.

I have heard numerous times from women that want to have natural childbirth and all I can say is “Best of luck to ya”. I promise you a million bucks that when those labor pains start your going to change your mind quickly. It’s next to terrifying to think how bad it is going to hurt with a baby coming out of your vagina when your cramps from labor feel the way they do. Please tell me how good the medication was after you receive it at childbirth (I would be happy to hear back from ya:)

Once you start to dilate the pain set in. The babies head is dropping into your pelvis. Contractions are what is pushing, and yes it hurts. Contractions + Dilating+ baby dropping= Pain.
No medication huh?? Good luck with that!

what helped me the most was a good focal point and deep breathing. i would suggest maybe a baby toy that you have bought. put it in your labor room where you can see it and when you are having a contraction, focus on it and take nice deep breaths…really concentrate on that item!
as far as hurting…well, it isn’t what i’d call a walk in the park but i didn’t have those horror stories so many people love to tell. as long as you stay calm you’ll stay in control of yourself. and if for any reason you choose or even require for medical reasons any kind of medication, don’t beat yourself up over it. during my fourth one i ended up getting a little bit upset and had to get some medicine.
anyway, when you are having the contractions think about the wonderful baby that is coming to you. the pains only mean its almost over.
i never felt like it was totally unbearable, but i can tell you that the feeling of relief once the shoulders of the baby are born is not comparable to any other feeling in the whole world!
good luck and congratulations!

Why put yourself through that pain when you don’t have to?

It’s the most painful thing you’ll ever go through..unless you happen to get your limbs ripped off. It’s terrible..take all the medication you can get.

Look, this isn’t the 1800s anymore. We have developed medications and we should take advantage of them!

Would you have an unmedicated root canal? Or an unmedicated appendectomy?

Please talk to a midwife and/or a labor massage therapist. You can have them with you in the room to help you, but the father is usually the one that the doctors will listen to, so make sure he understands exactly what you want and is willing to stand up for you no matter what they say. Midwives take training from thousands of years of women giving birth naturally. They know massage techniques and they are very educated on how harmful unnatural births can be and can motivate you to want to have nothing to do with those meds or much of any help from Western doctors. You can give birth naturally, women have been doing it since the beginning of people! I am very ashamed at the women that won’t even try to do what is the most natural thing in the world and the most healthy for the baby.
Find midwives by doing a google search in your area. There should be a nurse/midwife directory in your area.

with my first baby I had an epidural – loved it – nice and easy (I had planned to have a natural birth but chickened out after a while in the hospital – and looking back it was a good decision for me. Rather fast birth for a first Baby – 4.5 hours in the hospital)
My second baby was in a rush – no time for an epidural. It hurt but it was not as bad as i had thought. Deep breathing helped me a lot also squeezing my husbands hand through the contractions , before i went to the hospital (i went rather late because i was waiting for my hubby to come home and go with me) i took a bath – really helped my relaxing a good bit and a went for a walk around the block….yes it would have been smarter to have the bathing tub and walk around in the hospital. But from first contraction to Birth it was like 3 .5hours – really fast.
After the birth i was just so happy cheery and proud – i felt so wonderful. I was so proud of myself. If I have more children there is no question I would go natural again BUT it was my second child so everything progressed faster then with my first (and that was already fast), I knew what was coming and was more relaxed going into the whole birthing process. Also everyone experiences pain different.
Best luck for you and your baby!

Ok, here’s my story.

1st son was induced as I had raised BP. Not going into long-winded story but whole experience was awful and had to wait over an hour for an epidural – during this time almost bit through the gas and air mouthpiece, threw up and poop’ed myself (sorry for being gross!). After epidural the pain went which was bliss but it was quite hard to push as I couldn’t really feel my contractions. He arrived after an hour of pushing but I was utterly shattered and mentally numb.

When I was expecting my second son I was adamant that no-one was going to interfere with me – that was really my only stipulation on my birth plan. I started getting stabby pains on the Friday morning but not having experienced a naturally occuring labour the first time I didn’t realise these were contractions. I just thought he was poking into my bladder so I ignored them and carried on as normal.

The pains came and went throughout the weekend but by the Monday afternoon I was getting a bit of low back pain so I started to wonder if something was happening. By 9 that night the contractions were getting stronger and more frequent and I went into hospital about 10. By this time I had quite strong pain although not too much to cope with. I just breathed through it.

The midwives offered me the chance to use the pool which I had never actually considered but they said it could help the pain so I agreed. It took about 25 minutes to fill during which time I had to use the gas and air and by the time I got into the pool I was quite uncomfortable.

As soon as I got into the water the pain decreased dramatically, to the point where I didn’t need the gas & air at all. Before getting in they had told me I was 3-4cm dilated and that I would be several hours till delivery (they work on the formula of 1cm progression per hour). However after about 10 minutes I knew I was reaching the peak of transition as things get a bit spacey and you feel kind of out of it and strange. Once this passed I could feel his head right down and knew I had to push and after 2 pushes he floated out into my arms.

The whole experience was amazing and very empowering and I have to say I enjoyed it immensely. I am expecting #3 in June and will def have another waterbirth.

Now this is just MY personal story and I’m sure many women have had bad waterbirth experiences and swear by an epidural. The thing is to get as much info as you can and make sure you know exactly what is happening at each stage. Also it helps to keep walking towards the end of your pg as this helps to bring the baby down and open your pelvis. Also I had a big gym ball that I sat on as they say this also helps to spread your pelvis and make labour shorter and less painful.

The most important thing is to go into your labour with an open mind and if you do feel you need an epidural or whatever then TAKE it. There are no bravery medals for enduring terrible pain in childbirth, all you do is exhaust yourself. As long as your baby arrives safely that’s all that matters.

Good luck. x

I used the Bradley method with all four of mine. You should have started practicing at least two months ago. Now you should be starting prenatal perenial massage. I used the techniques in the book, Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way. It really works. It never did get unbearable. My husband took my picture in a contraction during transition. It looked like I was sleeping. You will need to practice a lot in order to learn how to do it in such a short time. You use total relaxation to prevent the fear-tension-pain syndrome. That way, you don’t get uterine cramps. For most women, the cramping is what causes most of the pain. If you don’t cramp, it doesn’t hurt nearly as much. Research and read about the Bradley method.