For mommies that had a C-section?
ByQuestion by Alexander’s mommy 
: For mommies that had a C-section?
This woman had asked why do women think c-sections are so bad
& i read the responses & a woman put “OH SOME WOMEN MIGHT FEEL LIKE FAILURES AS WOMEN BECAUSE THEY COULDN”T HAVE A VAGINAL BIRTH”
would you be offended by this statement??
i had a c-section & im very offended
i don’t consider myself less of a woman because i had to have a c-section
i consider myself lucky that i was given the privilege of being a mother
my baby’s heartbeat was too high & i had to have an emergency c-section because i couldn’t push him out fast.. he had pooped inside of me too even though a vaginal tube was placed inside of me to clear out the poop there was still risk for an infection & my water had been broken at 6pm on a friday night & i was ready to push at 8:30 am on sat morning
since i was under so much pressure to push out my son fast i wasn’t even allowed 20 min of pushing..
so i BEGGED/CRIED for a c-section my only concern was my son’s safety
im thankful that everything went fine during my c-section & my baby wasn’t born with an infection
it wasn’t how i hoped it went because i had been in the hospital for two days already getting induced in various different ways.. & at the end all that for nothing..
BUT i don’t consider myself like a failure as a woman
im a wonderful mommy to my son & i don’t think it matters how you get your lil one out.. the important thing is to get your lil one out safely..
Best answer:
Answer by A Streetcar Named Desire
Not really offended. I carried twins to 38 weeks and they are perfectly healthy now. Your right, as long as the little one(or ones in my case) are healthy, it shouldn’t matter.
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June 2nd, 2011 at 3:38 pm
I had a vaginal birth but I know women who needed c-sections who do feel like failures because their body let them down during something that is natural and normal. The fact that you are offended leads me to believe you do feel a bit of guilt or dissapointment otherwise you would be indifferent to the statment.
June 2nd, 2011 at 4:16 pm
I was actually hoping for a C section. I wasn’t looking forward to all that pushing and pain. I was happy when I found out my son was breech.
It doesn’t matter how your baby came into the world. It only matters what you do with your baby for the rest of it’s life. I’m sure some of the worst mothers in history didn’t have C sections. Some of the best did.
June 2nd, 2011 at 4:22 pm
I have to agree with Alice a bit here. I had a c-section & it wasn’t by choice either & if I read that statement it wouldn’t bother me because I’m secure in the knowledge that what happened was the best choice for me and my son. If I had’ve been determined for a natural birth my son and I in all likelihood would have died, as it was I came REALLY close. I feel privileged that modern medicine allows us to have c-sections when the need arises, my Grandmother wasn’t so lucky and labored her perfectly healthy son for THREE days & the Doctors killed him forcing him out of his Mother, that’s horrific & that’s your body failing through no fault of hers.
June 2nd, 2011 at 5:14 pm
Many women DO feel like their bodies failed them if they end up having a C-section. Just because you are happy that your son arrived regardless of how he got out…not everyone shares those sentiments. I doubt that statement was said to cause offense. I had a needless C-section with my first child (bullied into it by a lying, money-hungry OB), and had I not had a VBAC with my second, I too would have felt like my body failed me. As it was, I had a wonderful natural VBAC and it helped me to feel more confident in my body’s abilities.
June 2nd, 2011 at 5:18 pm
i dont really offensive.
i had a c-section with my son 2 years ago, and i do feel like a failure. its a huge let down to go through hours and hours of painful labor, just to be told you have to have a c-section. i was in labor for over 20 hrs. of non-progressive labor. i didnt dilate past 2cm. my sons heart rate was dangerously low, so they had to get him out fast! it did feel like a failure. you hear about women brag about how great their vaginal birthing experience was, it makes you feel like crap that you couldnt experience something like that.
dont get me wrong, i am very thankful that my son arrived safely, but i just wish i could have experienced what so many take for granted.
i dont get why your so offended about the statement. if you are so happy for your c-section, then that statement shouldnt bother you.
what bothers me, is the women who CAN have vaginal births, chose not to.
June 2nd, 2011 at 5:22 pm
Well, there _is_ a strong “you were too posh to push” attitude, especially from people who were lucky and found childbirth relatively easy. I’m not offended by that statement because I’m sure some women _do_ feel failures because of it.
I’m with you. I refuse to feel a failure as a woman either. But at the time? Yes, I felt like I’d failed. It took smashing my wrist three years later, and getting in the car and driving home, and for the doctors to not believe I’d been able to do it, for me to realise that no, I wasn’t a wimp who would give up at the first twinge of pain.
Like you said – the important thing is to do the best for your child. Sometimes that’s a C-section.
June 2nd, 2011 at 6:06 pm
i had to get a c-section too! i was induced at 3am & my baby was supposed to be out at least 10hrs later.
at 6pm the next day my doctor decided she was gona do the c-section because i had stalled at 4cm & the heartbeat was getting low
so i was in labor about 16hrs. with no epidural not iv medicine for nothing! since i had to get the spinnal tap at the end…& it doesnt make me less of a woman or mother..i was in labor just like every one else.
June 2nd, 2011 at 7:04 pm
im glad that it all worked out for you.
but i also had to have an emergency c-section and i wasn’t happy about it. i know i had no Choice my baby was in distress and had been in labour for 18hr and i had only dilated 2cm in all that time [i was induces.]
i was so up set with myself [i know it wasn't my fault and im not a failure] but i feel like one and i feel like i was robed from something amazing and a memory that i can never get back. and that was 6 years ago.
now i have another baby [13weeks] and i was able to have a natural birth and i have never been prouder of my self and i feel relay good about the hole thing. but i would never want another c-section