Archive for The Full-Time Parent
POLL: How would you feel if your husband was the stay at home Dad?
Posted by: | CommentsHere’s the deal:
I make more but he has the potential to do very well. I would LOVE to be the stay at home mommy BUT we can’t afford it. We may be okay if he stays home and maybe starts a side business but makes our son and house the priority. We would have to cut back on a lot but I am fine with that (basically two DINKS became parents).
Also, I work from home so there would be more between work family time (i.e, lunches in the park together, etc.).
Anyhow, I just thought I would throw this out here – men/women please comment about your reservations and pro-thoughts.
Stay-at-home-dad question?
Posted by: | CommentsMy husband works full time (night shift) and after taxes, makes enough to pay my mom for watching our two kids during the week, with maybe $100 left over for “incidentals.” The only drawback is that we get a discount on our auto insurance through his employer. What do you guys think of him refusing to be a SAHD? My solution was for him to work weekends–basically enough to keep our auto ins discount, put a few bucks in his pocket, and have some “adult” time with friends/coworkers. He is adamantly refusing. He’s working to pay daycare, basically. Right now, we pay all bills off my salary, and other than the auto insurance discount (which would continue if he worked weekends) there is no drawback that I can see to him staying home. Opinions? Advice? Reasons why he should/shouldn’t stay home? I’m going to show him all answers, so please be honest (no matter what your opinion is!).
As for bringing home the bacon, I don’t know that this is an issue as I am the bread winner in the family.
jt brought up the point I forgot to mention–time with kids is priceless. True they’re being cared for by my mom, but she’s MY mom–not theirs. Why work if it’s only to pay daycare, and you are physically and mentally able to care for your own kids?
Many respondants seem to feel that I’m FORCING him to do this. Quite the opposite. (Guess I should have mentioned this in my original post.) We talked several months ago and HE decided he was going to quit work, take care of our boys full time, and go to school part time in the evenings when I arrived home from work. Now all that has changed, and I’m not sure why. And I’ve never rubbed it in his face that I’m the breadwinner. He knows it; I know it; but that’s that–I never mention it.
Is anyone else a stay at home dad?
Posted by: | CommentsWhat influenced your decision?
I am a Stay-At-Home Dad and I want my childs mom to nurture her more………….?
Posted by: | CommentsWhat ways can I help her to understand that since I’m home 24/7 with the baby that the baby needs affection from her as well. Our baby is 13 months old and is getting out of breastfeeding except sometimes when she awakens at night so that’s pretty much all she gets from Mom. I fear that our roles have reversed from what is normal socially. I took a hiatus from my job at State Farm to save us money on daycare because for newborns it’s like $300 per week. I think she is actually jealous of the way I care for her but I didn’t ask to be put in the situation, I’m just making the best of it. What do you do when Mom is jealous of the baby ? It’s like she will let her sit on the floor and cry and say, “I’m not going to pick you up. Your father has spoiled you.” The kicker is, I don’t pick her up often at all and I videotaped my day with her to prove it. I just think she is punishing our baby for the love she gets from me.
what do you think of stay at home dads?
Posted by: | CommentsI was laid off work about 6 months ago. I havent been able to find any work since then, so i have been a stay at home dad. Does this mean im not a real man?
Have you ever met a stay-at-home Dad?
Posted by: | CommentsDo they exist? Or are they only the stuff of Legend?
I’m not talking about Dads that work from home. I’m talking about Dads that do not work and stay home taking care of the kids. The “house husband” scenario.
What do you think about stay at home dads?
Posted by: | CommentsWould you look down on a father who stays at home with the kids by choice because it’s what he and his wife decided on? Why or why not?
Stay at home mom or Stay at home dad?
Posted by: | CommentsWhen my husband and I were dating, we both agreed that I would stay home whenever we had children.
Since then, I’ve gotten a better job in the financial sector of municipal government that is more career oriented than teaching. My husband has started taking college classes and realized that he hates it. He has a good job in the oilfield and currently works 7 days on and 7 off. So on his days off, he does a lot of the cleaning around our apartment. Well, lately, he’s been making comments that I should pursue a higher business degree and get a killer job and he could be the stay at home dad. I admit that I’m not the best at cleaning the house, but I hoped to learn and I am the one who does all the cooking. I have always wanted to stay at home with my kids. How do we go about making a huge decision like this?
It’s driving me crazy because we’re holding off on having kids until he finishes school. Help me?!?!
Why does society frown upon stay-at home dads?
Posted by: | CommentsI have recently become a stay-at-home Dad for awhile. I cook, clean, wipe dirty bums, run erands, and organize activities.
Due to our current situation we figured this would best benefit our family however some family members have had negative things to say.
What are your honest opinions about it?
Stay at home dad lonely….?
Posted by: | CommentsMy partner has been a stay at home Dad for about six months. He hates it and says he is lonely…he keeps begging me to give up my job but I know that we just can’t afford to and I don’t trust him to have the motivation to provide for a family.
Yesterday he made made a yahoo account, a bebo account and he says that he is going to start going on chat rooms so he can have people to talk to. I am feeling very paranoid about this and I made a big arguement about it. When I was pregnant with our daughter I caught him on dating websites and on his profile it said “does not want children”. At the time he made this I was 5months gone and I can’t seem to get it out my head that he will meet someone online when he is supposed to be looking after our daughter.
Do you think I am right to be annoyed or do I just sound like a jealous bunny boiler?
