How did you make your baby to fall asleep by themselves without cry it out method?
ByMy daughter will be 9 months on this Thursday and she’s still sleeping with me and my husband. I tried to put her down to sleep in her own crib and she would wake up and cry every time! It’s so frustrating. Please help.
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16 Comments
January 30th, 2010 at 3:16 pm
Try a binky and rub her back alittle before you leave her there.
January 30th, 2010 at 4:09 pm
Does she take maps in her crib? If not, try to get her started there. Give her some time to get used to taking naps in her crib so that it is not so foreign at night. We just put our son in his own room in his crib for the first time on Sunday night and he did great. I think it was a factor of him taking naps in that same space.
January 30th, 2010 at 4:20 pm
My son had this same problem! STILL has, and he is 2! LOL But it is slowly getting better… I guess! He is so used to sounds, or any kind of noise! He would fall asleep right away on the couch when the TV was on, and when he was little we had to place him on the dryer! The best method beside the “cry it out” for us, was just purchasing a little radio. We turn it on in his room as well as a night light, then lay with him to read a good night story. He normally is asleep half way through the book. But… he is awake again at three in the morning… so hopefully you have better luck then me
January 30th, 2010 at 4:26 pm
One day, I just started letting him cry just a little bit. I first went in after 2 or 3 minutes, then waited 5 minutes, then waited about 10 minutes, and so on. Eventually he fell asleep. I only had to do that during 2 naps for him to get it. They just need to be reassured that you’ll come get them if they need you.
January 30th, 2010 at 5:25 pm
I know this isn’t exactly what you were looking for but I can honestly say no one I know has had any other method work. I know it’s hard but it’s tried and true.
I don’t know everyone on the planet so I know that there are methods that have worked for others but every child is different and responds to different things….
January 30th, 2010 at 6:20 pm
This isn’t going to be easy. Start a bedtime routine (brush teeth, get into PJs, tell a story, cuddle) and when your daughter is almost asleep but not quite, put her in bed. Pay some attention to her when you put her down (rub her hair or something) and talk softly to her. Again when she looks almost asleep, stop and leave the room.
At first she will wake up and you will have to try again but in a week or two she should be accustomed to the new system.
January 30th, 2010 at 6:28 pm
Letting her cry for 15 min, or 30 min is not a big deal. You can tell if she is in pain or if she is just whining based on the cry as her mother.
You need sleep for your sanity so you can be a good parent.. In my opinion, you only need to let them “cry it out” 1-3 times. After that, they get it and don’t rely try again.
i know its not what you wanted to hear… I would never let my kids cry more than 30 min but once in a while letting them whine about it is not going to damage them.
January 30th, 2010 at 7:23 pm
Im so glad you dont want to use CIO! Here is what I done.
I used the return and repeat method.
I put her into bed, awake. Said goodnight, put her lullabye light on, and left the room.
On noticing I left, she would whine – as soon as I heard this, I returned to her. Its so much easier to settle a whiny baby than a baby who is left to get themself into a full scale cry. I stroked her face, spoke softly, rubbed her tummy etc – but I never licked her up.
Then I left again. I went in and out as many times as it took for her to fall asleep. Night 1 took 20min, By night 5, there was no going back in – she went straight to sleep.
January 30th, 2010 at 8:08 pm
My son was younger when I got him to fall asleep on his own, but I suppose age doesn’t really matter, more the technique? He’s my first so I might be wrong. All I did was give him his dummy (pacifier) and rub his belly, and if he still couldn’t calm, then I’d pick him up and rock him (bad mummy). By the time he was 3 weeks old he’d fall asleep on his own.
January 30th, 2010 at 9:02 pm
“It’s so frustrating. Please help.”
Put the crib on Craigslist, cuddle/nurse her to sleep, go pick out a regular twin bed with her when she’s old enough to want one.
You get this tiny bit of time with her as a young child and then that’s it — you don’t get to go back and have the cuddles later on when you’re a lonely old lady.
January 30th, 2010 at 9:27 pm
i understand how you feel im going through the same thing right now my daughter is 3.5 months old and she has been sleeping with me and my boyfriend since she was born, but this week i have been trying to put her asleep in her crib but what i do is give her a binky and a blanket and she just recently started to fall asleep on her own then i put her in her crib and she will wake up and cry too but you gotta give it time im sure it will get better
January 30th, 2010 at 10:21 pm
Well if I moved you right after you fell asleep you’d probably wake up and scream at me too!
You just keep encouraging them to go to sleep on their own. Really. The same as you can’t make a baby walk -you can encourage them but you can’t make them. Try getting her to fall asleep in your bed first but slowly move further away.
January 30th, 2010 at 11:20 pm
I tried and then I just gave up. My daughter is 18 months old and sleeps right between my husband and I. She is my third and I finally figured Oh Well! They are only litttle once so why rush it. I’m pretty sure in 20 years im not going to be looking back thinking oh I wish I would’ve made her sleep in her own bed, lol!
Sorry I know i’m not really helping you but all of my children slept with me untill they were about 2 and I liked it that way……..
January 30th, 2010 at 11:47 pm
I just gave up trying..I tried CIO and it was awful.My son cried & so did I..I just decided that it wasn’t for us.I still hold my son when he goes to sleep.He has had some attachment issues as well,so we moved him into a toddler bed (with rails of course) and put his bed right next to ours.He started sleeping great.Sometimes I dread nighttime because he will only go to sleep with me most nights,but then I think “here in a few years he will not want mommy” and change my`mind real fast..It might seem frustrating,but they really do grow up so fast..I would rather not look back and regret not getting all the cuddles that I can
January 31st, 2010 at 12:22 am
You sound like someone who would appreciate the book The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. It has a section specifically addressing cosleeping as well.
Some ideas for transitioning away from that are to start routines whil8e inyour bed that then carry over to the crib, like swaddling/sleep sack, playing white noise or using a pacifier. ALso, your baby is old enough to have a small lovey in her crib – wear it inside your shirt so it smells like you. You can prop a rolled recieving blanket next to her so she doesn’t feel alone (in fact, you can make this the thing that smells like you!). Use flannel sheets or warm her sheets so she doesn’t notice the temperature difference when you put her down (swaddling also helsp with this). If there is room you can even start by bringing her crib into your room. Does she nap there? This might be the easiest time to start, since you can be persistent about putting her in the crib w/o losing more sleep! If she doesn’t nap there, she might also be helped by spending some awake time in the crib getting familiar with it. Hope one of these ideas might help…
January 31st, 2010 at 12:23 am
throw a binky at her n say shut the fuck up and put it in ur mouth haha