Comments on: How do you do the “cry it out” method? http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method Resources for the new and expectant mother. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 10:21:08 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: iheartamericaneagle07 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-3068 iheartamericaneagle07 Sat, 30 Jan 2010 08:23:15 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-3068 I'm being sneaky! I am currently trying the method myself, but I really wanted to voice my opinion after reading the answers you got! I took my daughter to her PEDIATRICIAN (someone who gets PAID to help you take care of your children's needs and answer questions!!), and she said that I need to start the cry it out method right away because my daughter is almost 3 months old. She said that by 3 months of age, babies start to manipulate their environment. Since she was 6 weeks old we have been giving her a bath at 10pm every single night and then feeding her and trying to get her to sleep. Last night I gave her a bath as usual (except at 9 instead because of daylight savings time) and then I ADEQUATELY fed her (she is breastfed as well) and then put her in her crib at 9:50. She slept until 12:45 no problem! I was so tired that I just brought her back to bed (bad, I know!) but still was pleased with the time my husband and I were able to share our bed! I tried it for nap time today and it didn't go as well. She is currently napping in her swing. =/ I will try again tonight and the key is being consistent! I can only stand the crying for about 3 minutes though, so it will be tougher for me! Good luck! Also, just to let you know, my pediatrician said that at the age and weight that my daughter is at (11 weeks old, 13 lbs. 6 oz.) she does NOT need to eat every 3 hours at night. She said that babies are supposed to sleep 16 hours a day on average (2 two hour naps and 12 hours at night!) and that there is no reason she shouldn't be sleeping through the night at this age. I’m being sneaky! I am currently trying the method myself, but I really wanted to voice my opinion after reading the answers you got!

I took my daughter to her PEDIATRICIAN (someone who gets PAID to help you take care of your children’s needs and answer questions!!), and she said that I need to start the cry it out method right away because my daughter is almost 3 months old. She said that by 3 months of age, babies start to manipulate their environment.

Since she was 6 weeks old we have been giving her a bath at 10pm every single night and then feeding her and trying to get her to sleep.
Last night I gave her a bath as usual (except at 9 instead because of daylight savings time) and then I ADEQUATELY fed her (she is breastfed as well) and then put her in her crib at 9:50. She slept until 12:45 no problem! I was so tired that I just brought her back to bed (bad, I know!) but still was pleased with the time my husband and I were able to share our bed!
I tried it for nap time today and it didn’t go as well. She is currently napping in her swing. =/ I will try again tonight and the key is being consistent! I can only stand the crying for about 3 minutes though, so it will be tougher for me! Good luck!

Also, just to let you know, my pediatrician said that at the age and weight that my daughter is at (11 weeks old, 13 lbs. 6 oz.) she does NOT need to eat every 3 hours at night. She said that babies are supposed to sleep 16 hours a day on average (2 two hour naps and 12 hours at night!) and that there is no reason she shouldn’t be sleeping through the night at this age.

]]> By: k http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-3067 k Sat, 30 Jan 2010 07:56:06 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-3067 So you want to stop feeding your son?? I don't get it. He is waking because he is hungry. You need to feed him. There is nothing wrong with that. The CIO method doesn't curve hunger. Sorry. Not all babies sleep through the night at this age. I am not trying to be mean it just seems weird that you want to "stop the waking". You simply can't....your life is now all about the baby. So you want to stop feeding your son?? I don’t get it. He is waking because he is hungry. You need to feed him. There is nothing wrong with that. The CIO method doesn’t curve hunger. Sorry. Not all babies sleep through the night at this age. I am not trying to be mean it just seems weird that you want to “stop the waking”. You simply can’t….your life is now all about the baby.

]]> By: irish_par http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-3066 irish_par Sat, 30 Jan 2010 07:20:57 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-3066 Hi there. The cry-it-out or the CIO is also known as the Ferber method. named after the doctor who came up with this idea. Follow the link here to learn more about it http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ferber-method-demystified_7755.bc I do not support the CIO method however, you've to decide what is best for you and the baby. It isn't good for the baby to be waking up so often at night as he needs the rest to let his brain develop and it is certainly not great for the parents either. You could also try looking into other no-cry methods by Elizabeth Pantley. Also, you can find more info from other yahoo answers here:http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081015104919AASfLIC Hi there. The cry-it-out or the CIO is also known as the Ferber method. named after the doctor who came up with this idea. Follow the link here to learn more about it http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ferber-method-demystified_7755.bc
I do not support the CIO method however, you’ve to decide what is best for you and the baby. It isn’t good for the baby to be waking up so often at night as he needs the rest to let his brain develop and it is certainly not great for the parents either. You could also try looking into other no-cry methods by Elizabeth Pantley.
Also, you can find more info from other yahoo answers here:http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081015104919AASfLIC

]]> By: mesmart http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-3065 mesmart Sat, 30 Jan 2010 06:29:42 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-3065 I would absolut not use the "cry it out" method any longer. I have tried it, but I think it's really cruel. Your son knows that the milk comes from you. I would send in your husband to him every night instead and have him stay with him in the room until he falls asleep again. If you give him the bottle sometimes as well, you (that means your husband!) can offer him a bottle with water instead. He will not want it since he wants your warm body more than anything else, but if your husband does a good job, you will be able to have a baby who sleeps through the night after about a week. I would absolut not use the “cry it out” method any longer. I have tried it, but I think it’s really cruel. Your son knows that the milk comes from you. I would send in your husband to him every night instead and have him stay with him in the room until he falls asleep again. If you give him the bottle sometimes as well, you (that means your husband!) can offer him a bottle with water instead. He will not want it since he wants your warm body more than anything else, but if your husband does a good job, you will be able to have a baby who sleeps through the night after about a week.

]]> By: Isabeu O (Finally a mummy!) http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-3064 Isabeu O (Finally a mummy!) Sat, 30 Jan 2010 05:52:13 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-3064 I don't think the crying out method would work if your baby was well and truly hungry. Breastfed babies feed more often, and need there feeds, even if they are only hours apart. The CIO method is not for me, but I have nothing against those who use it. I just personally feel that your baby is crying in the night because he needs his feeds! I don’t think the crying out method would work if your baby was well and truly hungry.

Breastfed babies feed more often, and need there feeds, even if they are only hours apart.

The CIO method is not for me, but I have nothing against those who use it.
I just personally feel that your baby is crying in the night because he needs his feeds!

]]> By: lidlchris http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-3063 lidlchris Sat, 30 Jan 2010 05:05:18 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/how-do-you-do-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-3063 1.Before you lay him down be sure he is fed and changed. (obviously) 2.Make sure he is somewhat coherent when you do lay him down. 3. If he starts to fuss rub his belly (or back) whichever way he is laying to reassure him a little then LEAVE THE ROOM. 4.WAIT 3 MINUTES! If he is still crying go in and DO NOT PICK HIM UP!! Instead, reassure him by rubbing belly/back again for about 30sec to a minute. Then LEAVE THE ROOM. You will do this 3-5 times. (whatever you are more comfortable with) 5.Then you will increase the time in between reassuring him to 5 minutes. Do this 3-5 times. The important thing here is NOT to pick him up! Trust me it will be hard, but you want your sleep back right? :) 6.Then increase the time to 10 minutes in between MAX. You will continue to go in a reassure him every 10 minutes until either he settles or you give in. ~ After about 3-5 nights he will give up though. Here are a few side notes: If at anytime during his tantrum he is choking or throws up... go in and take care of the issue... do NOT pick him up unless you HAVE to. Also, when you change him at night make it STRICTLY 'BUSINESS'. (this is a tough one too) DO NOT MAKE EYE CONTACT. You want diaper changes at night to be fast and non-stimulating for him. ANY eye contact is going to stimulate and get him excited. So, kiss him and hug him a little when you pick him up and lay him back down but make them quick and 'business' like. Leave all of the playing for the daytime. :) Good luck sweetie!, I Hope this helps. 1.Before you lay him down be sure he is fed and changed. (obviously)

2.Make sure he is somewhat coherent when you do lay him down.

3. If he starts to fuss rub his belly (or back) whichever way he is laying to reassure him a little then LEAVE THE ROOM.

4.WAIT 3 MINUTES! If he is still crying go in and DO NOT PICK HIM UP!! Instead, reassure him by rubbing belly/back again for about 30sec to a minute. Then LEAVE THE ROOM. You will do this 3-5 times. (whatever you are more comfortable with)

5.Then you will increase the time in between reassuring him to 5 minutes. Do this 3-5 times. The important thing here is NOT to pick him up! Trust me it will be hard, but you want your sleep back right? :)

6.Then increase the time to 10 minutes in between MAX. You will continue to go in a reassure him every 10 minutes until either he settles or you give in. ~ After about 3-5 nights he will give up though.

Here are a few side notes:
If at anytime during his tantrum he is choking or throws up… go in and take care of the issue… do NOT pick him up unless you HAVE to.

Also, when you change him at night make it STRICTLY ‘BUSINESS’. (this is a tough one too) DO NOT MAKE EYE CONTACT. You want diaper changes at night to be fast and non-stimulating for him. ANY eye contact is going to stimulate and get him excited. So, kiss him and hug him a little when you pick him up and lay him back down but make them quick and ‘business’ like. Leave all of the playing for the daytime. :)

Good luck sweetie!, I Hope this helps.

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