How has the “Cry It Out” method worked for you?
ByWe’ve been doing it for about 6 weeks now, and at times she only cries for 5 minutes. Other times she’ll cry for 30 minutes, and it seems like we’re starting the method all over again! I personally cannot leave her for more than 30 minutes. After that, I’ll go in comfort her, breast feed her and try again. Usually after that she’ll go down fairly quickly. Anyone else find the method is only good 60% of the time? What about people with older babies… does it get better? We have a 4 year old and until he was 2, he got up every hour. We never did the “cry it out” method with him, but wished we had.
Our Daughter is currently 6 months old.
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11 Comments
February 3rd, 2010 at 8:16 am
The reason it has taken you so long is because you keep going in comfiting her and breast feeding her. You are NOT being consistent.
February 3rd, 2010 at 8:57 am
I would say just keep trying the meathod even though it seems like it will never work, it will. Don’t give up, just keep trying and sooner or later it will work.
Good luck!!
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:47 am
worked all the time for me.. your problem is you’re going in after 30 minutes and she KNOWS you’re coming if she cries long enogh.. you may have to let her go longer than that, but only for a few days i promise… I did this with all three kids around 8 months old when i moved them into their cribs (slept with me until then) and it only took a week or two for them to catch on and then they slept great. how old is your baby?? I really wouldnt recommend crying it out for any baby under 6 months…….
February 3rd, 2010 at 10:31 am
Sorry, it didn’t work for me.
February 3rd, 2010 at 10:58 am
actually I used the cry it out method on my first, and I wish i hadnt, he is six now and khas always been on whinny side, i wonder if he would have come out different, with my youngest I always picked her up when she cried and it didnt spoil her,she is now 2, with my middle child I used mixed the two and it worked ok , he is now 5 and is pretty a well rounded individual:) You just have to figure out whats best for you and the baby
February 3rd, 2010 at 11:14 am
crying is a babys only way of comunicating with you. when your baby was in your woomb she was neither hot or cold or dirty or hungry and was always cradled so comfortably.but now your baby has a bran new world to adjust to, and so when you comfort her, she will not only cry less but she bond even closer to you knowing that her needs are being met. she is a tiny helpless baby that soley depends on her loving parents to love her and care and comfort her all the time. dont worry about spoiling her.we’re talking about a 6 week old not a 6 year old
February 3rd, 2010 at 11:52 am
No – I totally oppose this method. At that tender age, you just need to be there for your baby. She cries because she needs something, she is feeling discomfort, or she just needs the security of her parent. Take your baby when she cries, hold her and sooth her. Try rocking her back to sleep, lightly rubbing her back, or singing softly. Make her feel more calm and secure.
February 3rd, 2010 at 12:21 pm
I used CIO with my oldest. To heck with the experts who said it was a good idea. You know what it taught her? Not to self soothe, but that mom and dad will not listen to her.
I didn’t with my youngest. (I was exhausted and fell asleep very hard while she was taking a nap. She was crying hysterically in her crib and had vomited.
We had to do it when my husband and I both had the flu and neither of us could be with her.) She is far and away the better sleeper of my two girls. With the exception of a few nights when she just flat out refused to go to bed, she’s been sleeping through the night since she was 6 months old.
We teach our kids to roll over, sit up, feed themselves, walk, etc. Yet we think they’re supposed to teach themselves how to sleep? Sleeping through the night without CIO should be a celebrated milestone.
February 3rd, 2010 at 12:39 pm
Venus has it going on. 6 months is way too young to learn anything positive from this method. Children should be able to rely on the comfort of their parents, even if it causes us sleepless nights. Its worth it in the long run
February 3rd, 2010 at 12:53 pm
Your daughter knows that you are going to go in there and soothe her. Instead, peak in to make sure that she is not in dire jeopardy but do not reenter that room.
My daughter used to cry till she vomitted. I would go in thinking she was sick. Take her out, change the bed then bring her in my room to soothe a sick baby. Now I realize that I should have changed the bed then put her right back in it and left the room no matter how many times it required.
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:10 pm
its probably not working because shes probably not ready. she’s bf, she digests breastmilk faster and will need to eat more often.
the baby feels love and secure, you put them in bed turn off the light say good night and leave. uh well, scared, insecure, alone. its cruel. when the child is ready they will sleep through the night