My 8 month old baby refuses to nap in her crib but will sleep there at night.should I let her cry it out?
ByI have tried the playpen thing and it won’t work…all she wants is for me to hold her. She’ll sleep for a long time with me. I am going back to work soon and am lost on what to do so she will sleep alone. I’m sure daycare won’t hold her. Will she grow out of this?
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8 Comments
April 20th, 2010 at 8:11 pm
No.
Maybe she is not tired at “naptime” but tired at night? I found my daughter at 8 months needing to change up her sleep methods. Just because it is naptime on our watch does not mean they are magically tired.
If she is showing signs of being tired, perhaps you should try rocking with her in a quiet room and try to lay her down in a pack and play or safely on your bed. She doesn’t HAVE to nap and she doesn’t HAVE to nap in her crib. If she is tired and fighting it…rock her to calm her.
Crying it out is neglectful.
Edit:
Is she going to a home daycare or a group daycare? Asking daycare to hold her is not asking too much! Please know that! Do you have a sling that you can have daycare use? Also, something to think about—babies react differently to those other then momma. She may very well sleep fine alone there once she gets used to it. She knows they aren’t you so she may not “want” them as much as she wants you to hold her. It is a sweet thing, really. Hang in there.
April 20th, 2010 at 8:28 pm
give her a pacifier with Karo on it and see if she will go to sleep.
April 20th, 2010 at 8:35 pm
Maybe she wants to sleep somewhere else at naptime – try laying her down in a play pen or on a blanket on the floor.
April 20th, 2010 at 9:08 pm
She doesn’t “refuse”, she doesn’t really have the brain development to form intent let alone defiance.
She does not sleep well in her crib for naps. Does she sleep well somewhere else? Does it really impact your life where she sleeps (like does she sleep on the toilet so you can’t go to the bathroom)? If she sleeps well who cares where unless it is making your life miserable.
Many kids will only sleep in the hustle and bustle of the household. At least these kids sleep well if you have to go out somewhere!
April 20th, 2010 at 10:01 pm
My daughter is 6 months old. She takes her cat naps in her swing in the living room. Then she’ll take her long nap in her crib and sleep there at night. If you try to have her take her naps in her crib, she wont sleep either. She wants to be in the living room with us, she’ll even use her Pack’n'Play or a blanket on the floor to sleep.
April 20th, 2010 at 10:54 pm
No.
http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth
Wow. Big meanies! Babies cry because they need something. Your baby needs you to nap. If you follow the suggestions in the website above, you can slowly transition your baby into the crib for naps.
If you would rather not do all that work, it’s easier to just wear your baby in a sling while she naps. The daycare can do that too. If they won’t hold your baby when she cries, then find another childcare option. Of course, there will be times when one care provider is surrounded by five crying babies, but for the most part, they should be able to hold a baby who needs to be held. There are less sensitive providers out there, so pay close attention. I once offered to hold a baby while he had his bottle. We were at a toddler story time. The woman in charge had six children with her, and the baby was fussing because his bottle was propped and he couldn’t even see the action from his stroller. She told me that she was trying to teach the baby that crying would not get him what he wanted. Nice.
Anyway, the website can help, and the book is a godsend. I wish I had found it sooner. My four year old is refusing to sleep right now, and I think she does this because I made her cry it out as an infant. My No Cry Sleep Solution baby sleeps like a rock.
April 20th, 2010 at 11:30 pm
I’d try putting a blanket over the window. You could also try one of thoses teddy bears with the womb sounds with her, light music, a soothing sound machiene. Maybe try rocking and feeding her first, but I wouldn’t reccomend putting a bottle in the crib with her. Make sure nap time is the same time everyday, establish a routine. You could also try making nap time a little later, she may just not be sleepy yet. Most babies cry for 5-10 min, till tehy get used to sleeping at a certain time, I wouln’t let her cry for longer than that. If those things don’t work, you could try putting her in a playpen wherever you are with some light music on till she falls asleep, then mover her to the crib, till she gets used to it. Good luck, hope this helps!
April 21st, 2010 at 12:18 am
My baby has never napped in his crib, to be honest I think it is better that way. If you only put your baby in her crib at night time then she will associate it with the night and having a long sleep. I think putting a baby down for naps there during the day might confuse her and take away that association so she is more likely to play up when you put her down for the night. In the day my son either naps in his bouncer chair, in my arms, pram if we’re out, or occasionally he’ll fall asleep on his play gym. I feel better that way as I can always keep an eye on him if he’s downstairs with me, without needing to worry about the monitor. As I said he’s always been like that, and he’s been sleeping through the night since 8 weeks. I don’t know if that is why, but it is just my theory anyway!