My fussy 6 month old baby cries too much. Should I let him cry-it-out? How to go about it? HELP!!?
ByMy baby boy is the epitome of a ‘high-needs’, ‘persistent-personality’ baby. Everybody thinks so, including his grandparents. He is too fussy. He can’t sit by himself for even 2 minutes, he constantly wants to be cariied & held. Even then, he’s fussy. Whenever he wants to sleep, be it nap-time or bedtime he has to cry for at least an hour (while we are carrying him & swinging him around). It used to be OK but now he’s getting heavy & he DOES NOT SLEEP unless he’s carried in the rocking position & you have to stand up & jump around. At night, he sleeps at 10PM (after extreme fussing & crying). Then he wakes up screaming every half hour bcoz his pacifier fell out. I have to go back to work soon & I know nobody will be able to handle hm bcoz I’m his mother & it’s hard for me too. Any suggestions? I’m thinking about letting him cry it out but I don’t know how to do it. Will it work on my fussy baby? I doubt it bcoz he’s ready to go screaming & screeching for hours at end unless he gets what he wants. Please help me, I’m desperate!!
No actually he used to have colic when he was 2 months but that went away. His cries were different then. Now he just fusses & thrashes & then escalates to screaming unless he gets what he wants. Thanks for the answers everyone. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one suffering!! All the babies I’ve seen his age aren’t like him at all.
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January 31st, 2010 at 12:51 am
Sounds like my 4 month old. I love him dearly, but….geez. I am a single mom who works full time. Finally, just the past couple of days I put him to bed about 7-8 and get up ONCE around 1 a.m to feed him. Then I close his door, turn down the baby monitor, and leave him to his own devices until about 530 am. I just couldn’t keep getting up every hour with him and still get up and put in a full day of work (and then another full day of work when I got home!!!!).
I know it sounds harsh to let him “cry it out” but my baby has been doing well with putting himself back to sleep (so far).
Best of luck!
January 31st, 2010 at 1:38 am
i dont really know what to suggest but my 6 month old daughters the same during the day (however she sleeps through night so at least theres that you poor thing
) but in the day shes the same, you put her on the floor/in her chair/in her activity station/bouncer and after 2 mins shes crying again, she always wants to be carried about and like your’s she even whinges then, its like she needs something new to entertain her every 5 mins (which apparantly is a sign of inteligence so luck us haha)
this wasnt much help but id be interested in seeing what answers you get and if you need to talk send me an email
good luck x
January 31st, 2010 at 2:10 am
This is our first child, but my husband and I insist that she will cry it out, I have a nephew who is rotten to the core b/c he is so spolied that he is 3 and wont potty train.
Do not give in and have a hard child. No one will want to watch him or be around him.
All of the thumbs down…oh well you probably have spoiled children that people cant stand and they talk about you behind your back!
January 31st, 2010 at 2:35 am
Has he always been like this? It sounds like he has actual medical problems more than he is just being fussy. A lot of babies with stomach pains, cramps need to be held, as it is the only time their aches are somewhat relieved. I used to deal with a little girl who had this problem until she was 4 months old – they eventually diagnosed her with a uti – and guess what? She stopped. This was after months of misdiagnoses – but her parents kept bringing her in and kept trying to find the actual problem. From what you write, I am 95% sure there is a medical reason behind it – be it something in his diet he can’t handle (my baby had this problem with cow’s milk in my diet when I was breast feeding, I cut out the dairy and he was cured). or some kind of infection that hasn’t been diagnosed. I wouldn’t just live with it, I would get a medical opinion (or three) and see what they say.
January 31st, 2010 at 3:27 am
Did you ever bother to think that maybe something is bothering him? Maybe he’s teething? I don’t believe in the Cry it out method, that does nothing. your baby is crying for a reason.. not because he’s spoiled… why don’t you take him to his doctor & tell him all of this, see what he/she recommends.
January 31st, 2010 at 4:18 am
its sounds like colic…the baby need to be upright cause he has refulx..crying it out just makes the reflux worse..
i sit my son in the corner of the couch and he seems to do alright..
just stay with him..
try sitting him up in a bouncy or swing..
January 31st, 2010 at 4:51 am
No, you definitely should not let him cry-it-out. He is your baby and he needs you. I know it must be very exhausting, but his needs and wants have to be met. It could be something medical that is bothering him, or he may just need extra comfort. Either way, I think you should continue to tend to his needs and maybe ask for help from a friend or family member.
January 31st, 2010 at 5:38 am
My god I cannot believe the people who are telling you to do cry it out when they don’t know anything about it. It’s amazing to me that this old fashioned method of ’sleep training’ still exists and people refuse to acknowledge the harmful effects of it. I know it’s hard but cry-it-out is not in the best interests of your baby. Please see this: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/handout2.asp
I think it sounds like he has some medical problem, maybe gas or acid reflux. He’s not really old enough to be doing this because he’s spoiled. Something is causing him pain, it seems like to me. Talk to his doctor about it.