Should I let my 2 year cry it out when we put him to bed and he wants me to stay in there until he falls aslee?
ByWe already leave the light on for him until he is sleeping… I know I shouldn’t be doing that either. I just need to here from other people that it’s okay to let him cry this out.
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February 2nd, 2010 at 5:48 pm
“I just need to here from other people that it’s okay to let him cry this out.”
No, sorry. Be a parent, please.
Why would you even _want_ to do this? Which do you want to think about in fifty years — walking away from your sobbing tot, or reading stories and making with the cuddles?
February 2nd, 2010 at 6:07 pm
Yes it is ok.
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:02 pm
Yes I don’t think there is a problem with doing that
February 2nd, 2010 at 7:53 pm
You have to let them cry it out, especially once they are of toddler age. It is very hard to do at times, but it usually the only solution that really works. If it makes you feel better, I’ve seen the nannies on Nanny 911 and Jo from Super Nanny use this method. It works out great for them. I have only used this method once, but it worked miraculously! So you get to work with both perspectives, some (very few) say that this is neglectful and not the way to go around things, but as long as you are in the house, aware of the childs where abouts, being a great parent, feeding and sheltering your child… you are not being neglectful at all. It’s not like you are sick of the child and locking them in their room crying for no reason. You are simply teaching them a lesson. They won’t remember how they learned to fall asleep, it wont affect your relationship in a negative way (it will improve!) and your child will be able to get a great nights sleep… and so will you!! I hope this helps and the best of luck. AND by the way… make sure you are reading him stories, and doing what you can to help him fall asleep. Its when this, and nothing else is working that this will be alright!
February 2nd, 2010 at 8:30 pm
I would let him cry for about 15 minutes. If he doesn’t settle down then go back in there and try to get him to sleep. It is most definitely ok to let him cry it out at 2 years old. How is the kid ever going to toughen up? A 2 year old should not have to be rocked to sleep any more. You are doing fine! There is nothing wrong with reading him a book before bed, but then it should be lights out.
February 2nd, 2010 at 9:14 pm
He’s 2.
This is not ‘crying it out’
Thats a temper tantrum because he’s not getting his way.
SuperNanny does this and she’s a Child Care PROFESSIONAL: I tend to AGREE with the PROS.
Routine and sticking ‘to your guns’.
Every night it needs to be the same routine.
When mine were little it was:
Dinner then brush teeth.
Then spend 30 minutes with mommy and daddy playing or reading, NO TV.
Then right to bed.
Tuck them in, kisses…that whole thing.
Then turn off the light and leave the room.
Dont say anything else after you say goodnight.
If they come out of their room, walk or carry them back (up to you) and place them back in bed. Dont turn the main light on inside the room as that will stimulate the brain as well.
Dont say anything but “It’s time for bed. Goodnight.”
Then leave the room again.
Do it over and over and over and over and over until they stop getting out of bed.
I did this maybe 10 times the first night….5 or 6 the first night…then two times the 3rd night…and then none the 4th night.
Not all kids will take to it that fast, it depends on the childs age and your determination.
[TV stimulates the brain and makes it hard to fall asleep. The TV should be turned off at least one hour before you want your child to lay down and fall asleep.]
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:07 pm
Given the sheer amount of crying that a young child does, and the equally huge number of hours detracted from sleeping; provided that the child is not hungry, in pain, or scared, it is more than permissible to let a 2-year-old cry it out once in a while.
Although I am not a parent, I was quite aware of the crying that my little sister made and the stresses it can place on a parent. My parents did the same thing to me and I think I turned out alright.
That isn’t to say I don’t hate my parents. I do. But it’s for other reasons, like how a 3.6 GPA isn’t good enough. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’m a rebel and a maverick, I smoke marijuana with the cool kids. I mean, I beat up nerds quite regularly. Sure I apologize when the others have left and I give him a coupon to free ice cream at Baskin Robins but that doesn’t mean I’m not a badass. I am quite the badass.
So yeah, in conclusion, letting your kid cry every once in a while is fine.
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:12 pm
My daughter is 2, and I couldn’t imagine leaving her to cry it out. What’s wrong with staying in there until he falls asleep? Is something so pressing that you can’t wait till he drifts off to sleep?
My daughter has never fallen asleep at night without me being in there. And there’s nothing wrong with leaving a light on either.
If you’re needing other’s to tell you it’s okay, you evidently know it’s not.
February 2nd, 2010 at 10:31 pm
My 2 year old used to go to sleep at 9pm we had the routine for him at 7 play time with daddy and I then at 8 a bath, brush teeth and after reading a book and pray then sleep time at 9 pm wonderful until we went in vacation we are on the west and we went to the carribbean time differences messed the sleep routine since then its hard to get him to go to bed he will cry until he throws up we moved his bed to our room for about a week after that we put him back on his room first days same routine as before play time bath brush teeth and pray ill tell him its time to go to sleep tomorrow its another day and we will go outside and play, first days he cried but you have to be strong and dont go back to the room to comfort him he just doing it to get his way not because he is hurt or in need of something, give him a couple of days and he will forget and will be fine with going to sleep on his own.
you are doing a good job.
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:07 pm
Its so hard as a loving parent to do this, but I think at some point it has to be done. With all three of my children I let them cry it out after putting them to bed. You can always tell if they are truly afraid, or if they are just protesting you putting them to bed. They have to know there is a bed time. I see no problem with the letting them cry it out method
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:15 pm
I think it depends.
If my 2 year olds would go to sleep with me in their room and I had nothing else to do (like take care of a crying 3 month old) then I wouldn’t let them cry.
That said, if it was a last resort then yes I would and I have actually.
My twins won’t go to sleep if I’m around and I have a 3 month old who gets fussy at the same time my twins go to bed so I really don’t have a ton of choice in the matter.
Thankfully they typically do go to bed nicely.
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:56 pm
NOPE.
My daughter is 22 months old and for nap and bedtime I cuddle my big 32 weeks pregnant self in her toddler bed with her until she falls asleep. I love the snuggles and knowing that she is fully content going bed in my arms.
February 3rd, 2010 at 12:25 am
I think it is perfectly find to let him cry it out. If you stay in the room with him until he falls asleep he will be more upset at 3:00 am when he wakes up and you are no in the room.
I would do it now before you have a 4 year old in bed with you and you can’t get him out. Take it from me, my daughter is in bed with me because I lost the battle too many times and I would not allow her to just cry a little.
My only saving grace is that when she is 15 she probably won’t want to sleep in my bed.
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:19 am
What is wrong with leaving a night light on for him? Who told you that was wrong? Letting him cry it out is fine, if you don’t you’ll be in his room every night until he is an adult.