should I let my 9 month old cry it out if I know she is just controlling me? ?
ByAs soon as I grab her she stops crying and smiles or if I get on the floor with her to play she stops crying. I don’t leave her alone, but she likes me to be with her on the floor vs sitting working close by. Any suggestions?
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April 21st, 2010 at 1:10 am
i let her cry it out if you don’t got time to sit and pay with her letting her cry wont hurt her any. If you give in all the time you well never have time to your self and wont be able to leave her any were if you like to go out
April 21st, 2010 at 1:58 am
That is a tough one – if she feels that crying is the only way to get your attention that is why she is doing it. 9 months old is a little young for her to be trying to “control” you but she may be trying to figure out what to do to get the attention she desires. Make sure to respond to her before it turns into crying — she may be sending signals before hand that you haven’t recognized yet.
If the crying persists just tell her that mommy needs to do such and such but that in 10 minutes you will be back or able to play. It may take some time but she will start to learn that you will come back and do what you say when you say it.
April 21st, 2010 at 2:45 am
I would just ignore her and let her cry. Even at such a young age, babies are smarter than we think! I have an 18 month old daughter and boy can she manipulate me! I know it’s hard to listen to them cry, but take it from me and start early, otherwise it just gets harder to break the incessant whining & crying.
April 21st, 2010 at 2:51 am
Let her cry for a bit, but she isnt controlling you…she just wants you. But I would let her cry for a bit or try giving her a toy, try teaching her to entertain herself…
April 21st, 2010 at 2:54 am
Your giving your 9 month old too much credit. She wants your attention yes but she doesnt have the cognitive skills to try and control you yet.
April 21st, 2010 at 2:57 am
a 9 month old can not be manipulitive they cant control you they just aren’t that smart yet
April 21st, 2010 at 3:21 am
What is wrong with this question? Everything!
A 9 month old by nature does NOT have the ability to control you!
She is crying because she needs attention and whether YOU think it is valid or not is not the point.
Leaving her to cry it out will only cause her to either cry more because you are not giving her what she is needing emotionally; or
She may eventually stop doing it because you are not responding to it, but the down side to this is that she will not develop emotionally as she should.
Why would you have a problem with providing your young daughter with her emotional needs? Read up on child development and you will realise what a silly question this is.
What mother would not want to be near her child especially when you state “she likes me to be with me or the floor”. You should feel lucky!
April 21st, 2010 at 3:37 am
Babies do know how to manipulate their parents by some extent, but she may really be needing your attention. She’ll be in kindergarten before you know it, so if she wants to be near you, allow her to.
April 21st, 2010 at 4:07 am
I think that all kids do that. They are not thinking in terms of controlling you. Just in terms of getting what they want. Kids are very self centered and their world is just about them. That is not a bad thing. That is normal.I wouldn’t let him cry it out. What I did with my kids was let them cry for a few minutes and I would say ‘you are fine’ and I would finish with what I was doing. Than when I was done and had time or was ready, I would go and pick them up and say ’see there, I told you that you were fine’. Handle it casually and it doesn’t last too long
April 21st, 2010 at 4:29 am
Let her cry it out. she is prob. just spoiled. babies are smart. she knows as soon as she makes a sound you will come running. Thats great to be attentive to your child and you should be. But that leaves you little to no timee to do what you need to do. Always go through the checklist to make sure it isnt somethng else. But if it’s just about needing attention then let her cry it out. eventually she will learn how to entertain herself.