Should i use the cry it out method?

My son had the same problem, i would rock him to sleep and that was the only way he could fall asleep at night. Around 9-10 months it became hard for me to lay him down in the crib without waking him so i just let him cry it out. I did the 5-10-15…. method. Basically you let him cry for 5 minutes, then go in tell her its ok, your still here, mommy loves you etc, then wait 10 minutes, and so on. Eventually she will take the hint. Now this could take up to a week for her to start falling asleep on her own, just so ya know.

If you choose to use the cry it out method. This is how it’ll work…the first night she’ll cry for about an hour or so, the next night about 45 minutes to an hour, the next about 30 to 45 minutes, the next about 15 to 30 minutes, then from about 10 to 15, until she realizes that she can sooth herself. I personally don’t do that with my daughter yet, she’s 7 months. I didn’t start doing it with my friends daughter, whom I had custody of, until she was about a year. I would try to break her of the habit of sleeping in the bouncer with a bottle, because the second you go to pick her up and put her in the crib she’ll probably wake up and want to play some more. I would just put her to sleep in your arms and put her in the crib.

NO WAY! the cio method is wrong, and useless… even the doctor that wrote the book in the 80’s finally admitted back in 1999 that he was wrong, and that everyone should disregard his methods. why not just snuggle him and rock him until hes rubbing his eyes, and hes just falling asleep, then lay him down in his crib, let him roll around to get comfy, cause we all do roll around to get comfy. and if he sits right back up, take a blanket, wrap it around him and lay him right back down, if he is still awake, play with him until hes dead tired and repeat the proccess. there are reasons why your baby cries, and your not fufilling your duty as a parent to console your baby when they cry. remember when you were little and you were scared of the dark, you’d rather your parents check under the bed rather then just sit in the dark and fall asleep scared and lonely. do whats best for your child, and snuggle them, the only way I see the CIO method to work is with a 2 year old, cause they can talk and tell you whats the matter.

No, you should not use the cry-it-out “method.” You have to be a parent 24/7, not only when the sun is up, not only when it is convenient to you.

Please do some reading. It is not some scientific “method” backed by research.

Start here:

http://www.talaris.org/pdf/research/CIOPoster.pdf

“America’s “let them cry” attitude toward children may lead to more fears and tears among adults, according to two Harvard Medical School researchers.

Instead of letting infants cry, American parents should keep their babies close, console them when they cry, and bring them to bed with them, where they’ll feel safe, according to Michael L. Commons and Patrice M. Miller, researchers at the Medical School’s Department of Psychiatry.

The pair examined childrearing practices here and in other cultures and say the widespread American practice of putting babies in separate beds — even separate rooms — and not responding quickly to their cries may lead to incidents of post-traumatic stress and panic disorders when these children reach adulthood.

The early stress resulting from separation causes changes in infant brains that makes future adults more susceptible to stress in their lives, say Commons and Miller.

“Parents should recognize that having their babies cry unnecessarily harms the baby permanently,” Commons said. “It changes the nervous system so they’re overly sensitive to future trauma.”"

http://www.hno.harvard.edu/gazette/1998/04.09/ChildrenNeedTou.html

Don’t be swayed by the fact that other “mothers” have let their babies sob alone. It is lousy, lazy mothering. Neglectful at best.

Let her fall asleep in your arms. She will not be a baby for long.