To the person who let her baby “cry it out” you go girl!!!!!?
ByQuestion by proud mommy 
: To the person who let her baby “cry it out” you go girl!!!!!?
I am soooo happy that someone finally said it too! I couldn’t leave a comment because I already used my limit, but I wanted to say thank you! I totally agree with you, there is nothing bad in letting a baby cry it out, it helps build up their lungs, it does not hurt them. I did it with my daughter and she goes to sleep fine by herself now. And no I do not believe that she is going to resent me for doing so. My mom did it to us and we are perfectly fine, actually, we were very independent and well adjusted kids. Not that I am downing other parents about not letting their children cry it out, whatever works for you go for it. I am just saying that I am tired of being called a bad mother for it, and I wanted to thank all the people who agreed with her! Thanks
Also just wanted to add, I make sure my daughter is fed, changed, burped and in no pain before I do this. I don’t just throw her in bed and go “There ya go!” I do kiss her and love her and hold her for a few minutes, and then she knows that it is time for bed when I lay her down and give her kisses and say goodnight
Just to let you guys know that who are still downing us, its not like they cry it out every time they go to bed. My daughter only did it for about a week if not less, and has now gone 2 months without crying herself to sleep. Its not like its an ongoing thing.
Sorry I meant, she has been going to sleep by herself without crying for 2 months.
Best answer:
Answer by allisonwilliams16
I agree 100%! I am a mom of 2 young children. Crying it out isn’t torture. Some children cry no matter what you do. If they are fed, changed, clean, played with, and they still cry…let em. It is not gonna hurt em. AMEN!!!
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13 Comments
February 3rd, 2012 at 10:21 am
LOL. I actually was waiting for all the bad answers…LOL And the thumbs down. Lets just say I have taught my daughter to work around my schedule. I always play with her. kiss her. She is my world. But I need sleep too….and she needs to know that when it is night time you sleep! LOL Thanks……LOL
February 3rd, 2012 at 10:26 am
At first I thought i couldn’t do that to my baby but then i had kids and realised I either leave her in that room to cry or I am going to go crazy and flip out at first I just walked out of the house and sat by the mailbox so I couldn’t hear her. Then it became easier it helped me get through the hard times she is now 7 and doesn’t resent me for it at all.
February 3rd, 2012 at 11:01 am
Theres a limit to how many comments you can leave?
February 3rd, 2012 at 11:46 am
I agree!
My mom rocked me to sleep every nap/bedtime when I was a baby and I couldn’t fall asleep on my own until I was 8 or 9–my parents used to have to sit in the room or in the hall outside my room for me to fall asleep and if they left, I knew. They learned their lesson for my brother who cried it out and is the most content, well adjusted guy I know!
I’ve been a nanny for 11 years and the kids who were rocked to sleep ALWAYS had sleep issues (with the exception of one little girl) until they were older (one girl was still rocked and occasionally sleeping with her parents at age 11–she’s 13 now and may still be doing it–I haven’t heard). The kids who cried it out were excellent sleepers and really well adjusted kids who were happy go lucky and independent–they weren’t whiny and learned to solve their own problems instead of looking for mom to solve them for him/her. Carries over to academics! I may need to write a thesis on this…
I love that the moms who are on their first babies who are under 18 mos think it’s HORRIBLE to let their child cry it out, but the mothers who have more than one or have extensive experience think it’s necessary. Experience really does change your views!! Bring on the thumbs down!
February 3rd, 2012 at 11:53 am
I think the cry it out is a situational basis. It shouldn’t be used for all kids and all situations. My third was such an easy baby, if she was crying, she really did need help, like her leg was caught in the bars of the crib. Now with my son, he was and still is so difficult. He cries harder, louder, and longer than normal children. Sometimes for my sanity I needed him to cry so I could calm back down because he would take it all out of me. So I think it shouldn’t be used often, but when you know they will fall asleep in minutes or you are getting to upset that you need to chill for a bit before going back into the situation.
February 3rd, 2012 at 12:52 pm
I do not agree with this IF (and I say IF) they have been co-sleeping and then they suddenly decide that they no longer want their child sleeping in bed with them.
At that point, you owe it to your child to actually put some effort into getting them to sleep on their own. After all, it was the parents decision to co-sleep with their child, not the child’s decision.
Speaking from experience, it doesn’t work for every child. Why traumatize a child when there are better choices out there?!
February 3rd, 2012 at 1:26 pm
I am in total agreement with you. Often, when we’re around other people, he’ll put up a fight when it’s nap time. I, of course, have learned that if I just let him cry it out, he’ll go to sleep a lot sooner than if I keep walking into the room to comfort him. But then someone will talk about the “poor baby” and before I know it, they’ve gone and gotten him. That aggravates me so much. Go ahead and think I’m a bad mother for letting him cry, but don’t undermine my authority by doing what I won’t.
February 3rd, 2012 at 2:22 pm
build up their lungs?????……stupid old wives tale indeed
and yes it does hurt them……causing brain bleeds and permanant chemical imbalances the brain
February 3rd, 2012 at 3:14 pm
I won’t repeat my whole answer to the other question, but I will re-post the links. There has been plenty of research done on the subject, and letting a baby cry unnecessarily does harm them, although it might be in ways that you cannot see yet. You should do some research before you decide that this is harmless to your child.
Children Need Touching and Attention, Harvard Researchers Say http://www.hno.harvard.edu/gazette/1998/04.09/ChildrenNeedTou.html
Weaning from Co-Sleeping without Crying It Out http://www.breastfeeding123.com/weaning-from-co-sleeping-without-crying-it-out-mom-to-mom-9/
A Fact-Based Case Against Letting Your Baby “Cry It Out” http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/19237/a_factbased_case_against_letting_your.html
Long term cognitive development in children with prolonged crying. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15499048?dopt=Abstract
Science Says: Excessive Crying Could Be Harmful to Babies http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/handout2.asp
Can leaving a baby to ‘cry it out’ cause brain damage? http://www.theregister.co.uk/2006/07/14/the_odd_body_crying/
February 3rd, 2012 at 3:39 pm
I dont agree with it at all. The nurse at the hospital told us that letting a child cry for long periods of time actually causes air to get in their stomachs which in turn causes belly aches. I feel sorry for your kids.
February 3rd, 2012 at 4:36 pm
Is this a joke?
I’m sure there are some babies that do fine crying it out but the risk is just not worth it! I had a friend who thought she was soooo smart letting her daughter cry it out and a few minutes later when she checked on her baby was dead. True story. I can understand formula feeding mothers sick of being called bad mothers but CIO mothers arent doing their children any favors and are putting them at risk.
I agree whole heartedly with babies uber on this one.
February 3rd, 2012 at 4:44 pm
OMG, BABIES ÜBER ALLES! who the f#$k do you think you are. You disgust me with an attitude and biggotry like yours im sure you will set a great example to your child/children i pitty them for having a peice of sh%t for a mother.
February 3rd, 2012 at 4:48 pm
BABIES ÜBER ALLES why don’t you take your head out of your a*ss. You post all these links and talk like you know it all, when you don’t. And really, where do you find all this time to do all this research? I mean, you being such a “perfect” mother (please note the sarcasm), dont’ you spend every minute with your child?
You are a disgusting person. Can you ever answer a question without being a sarcastic b*tch?
I so agree with you desiree g.
And yes, i am one of those great mom’s who loves her daughter dearly, who would do anything for her, who believes in the CIO method.