Comments on: what do you think about the cry it out method? http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method Resources for the new and expectant mother. Sat, 11 Feb 2012 00:00:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: B http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-4347 B Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:31:46 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-4347 i had that exact same problem and what you do is put them in there maybe with a binky and play some lulaby music if you can. and if she cries wait 10 minutes and go in a dont pick her up just consol her and maybe even sit in a chair by her crib for a bit and leave and next time wait about 12 minutes and go in and keep doing the same just to let them know you are there. after a while they will fall asleep and keep doing this and after about 2 weeks they will just cry for a bit and then fall asleep. i had that exact same problem and what you do is put them in there maybe with a binky and play some lulaby music if you can. and if she cries wait 10 minutes and go in a dont pick her up just consol her and maybe even sit in a chair by her crib for a bit and leave and next time wait about 12 minutes and go in and keep doing the same just to let them know you are there. after a while they will fall asleep and keep doing this and after about 2 weeks they will just cry for a bit and then fall asleep.

]]> By: all_my_armour_falling_down http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-4346 all_my_armour_falling_down Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:26:37 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-4346 I think making them cry it out at any age is borderline child abuse!!! A couple minutes here and there when you have to get something done is one thing, but it is natural for babies to want their mom at the end of the day to rock them to sleep. Don't listen to what other people tell you, you may have a hundred people telling you how to raise your baby. You're doing fine the way you've been doing it. I think making them cry it out at any age is borderline child abuse!!! A couple minutes here and there when you have to get something done is one thing, but it is natural for babies to want their mom at the end of the day to rock them to sleep. Don’t listen to what other people tell you, you may have a hundred people telling you how to raise your baby. You’re doing fine the way you’ve been doing it.

]]> By: professional_mother http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-4345 professional_mother Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:21:41 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-4345 Yes, leaving her to cry it out *will* teach her that she can't count on you. It will undermine your relationship. It may not be permanent (how would you even measure that?!), but it will harm your daughter *and* you. Consider it from a *human* perspective. How would you feel if you came home one day in tears because of something that had happened at work or with your best friend, and your husband told you that if you were going to cry, could you at least go into your room and not come out until you could be civil? Someone who is in emotional turmoil usually wants comfort. (Some adults are comforted by being alone, but that is a *choice* they make--not something that is imposed by someone else.) Another consideration is that when a baby/child cries alone, they release large amounts of cortisol (a stress hormone) even *after* the crying stops. So, calories that your daughter needs for growth and development will instead go to combat the stress. Crying it out is not good for her emotionally, psychologically, or even physically. You *cannot* spoil a child by loving her. Spoiling involves giving *things* not giving *yourself*. Your daughter will learn to comfort herself when she has the *maturity* to do so. Have you *ever* seen a 30 year old (even the most spoiled rotten ones!!) who can't fall asleep until her/his mother rocks her/him to sleep? Yes, leaving her to cry it out *will* teach her that she can’t count on you. It will undermine your relationship. It may not be permanent (how would you even measure that?!), but it will harm your daughter *and* you.

Consider it from a *human* perspective. How would you feel if you came home one day in tears because of something that had happened at work or with your best friend, and your husband told you that if you were going to cry, could you at least go into your room and not come out until you could be civil? Someone who is in emotional turmoil usually wants comfort. (Some adults are comforted by being alone, but that is a *choice* they make–not something that is imposed by someone else.)

Another consideration is that when a baby/child cries alone, they release large amounts of cortisol (a stress hormone) even *after* the crying stops. So, calories that your daughter needs for growth and development will instead go to combat the stress.

Crying it out is not good for her emotionally, psychologically, or even physically.

You *cannot* spoil a child by loving her. Spoiling involves giving *things* not giving *yourself*. Your daughter will learn to comfort herself when she has the *maturity* to do so. Have you *ever* seen a 30 year old (even the most spoiled rotten ones!!) who can’t fall asleep until her/his mother rocks her/him to sleep?

]]> By: nelle http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-4344 nelle Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:04:22 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-4344 I dont like leaving my child there to cry it out either... But there does come a point i think when they need to learn your not going to pick them up everytime they cry. I started out by putting her in her crib and letting her cry for 5-10 min then i would go in and hold her and let her know i was there. Then put her back in for another 5-10 min. I would never let her cry more then 15 min. I think thats just mean. Cause they dont really understand especially if they are used to you running everytime they cry. Try warm lavender baths right before bed. If my daughter is really fussy i rub lavender lotion on her feet and she goes right to sleep. Good Luck! I dont like leaving my child there to cry it out either… But there does come a point i think when they need to learn your not going to pick them up everytime they cry. I started out by putting her in her crib and letting her cry for 5-10 min then i would go in and hold her and let her know i was there. Then put her back in for another 5-10 min. I would never let her cry more then 15 min. I think thats just mean. Cause they dont really understand especially if they are used to you running everytime they cry. Try warm lavender baths right before bed. If my daughter is really fussy i rub lavender lotion on her feet and she goes right to sleep. Good Luck!

]]> By: icee85_76 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-4343 icee85_76 Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:35:18 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-4343 Personally, I do not believe in that method. I'd never do that to my kid. I heard that method makes them withdrawn or something when they get older. Personally, I do not believe in that method. I’d never do that to my kid. I heard that method makes them withdrawn or something when they get older.

]]> By: LMm20 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-4342 LMm20 Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:23:00 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-4342 This is called the Ferber Method. It is important for a baby to learn to self-quiet. YES, it will be tough at first, but the key to this method is CONCISTENCY. If you choose to do it, you have to stick with it or it will not work. Ask you pedeatrician for some small steps to take before you try a new bedtime routine. This is called the Ferber Method. It is important for a baby to learn to self-quiet. YES, it will be tough at first, but the key to this method is CONCISTENCY. If you choose to do it, you have to stick with it or it will not work. Ask you pedeatrician for some small steps to take before you try a new bedtime routine.

]]> By: mommyweeshie http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-4341 mommyweeshie Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:00:53 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-4341 DON"T DO IT!!!!! Your baby is only 8 months old. This is the time when the start having separation anxiety, that is why she seems more needy. It is perfectly normal. When you let babies "cry it out" it cause coritzol levels in thier brains to increase causing them to lose neurons. Do you want to be the cause of this? Do what feels right for you. Don't listen to your husband or mother they are not your daughters mother! You are! Do what feels right to you. Don't neglect your baby because other people tell you that it is right! DON”T DO IT!!!!!
Your baby is only 8 months old. This is the time when the start having separation anxiety, that is why she seems more needy. It is perfectly normal. When you let babies “cry it out” it cause coritzol levels in thier brains to increase causing them to lose neurons. Do you want to be the cause of this? Do what feels right for you. Don’t listen to your husband or mother they are not your daughters mother! You are! Do what feels right to you. Don’t neglect your baby because other people tell you that it is right!

]]> By: lilbirdfamily http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-4340 lilbirdfamily Tue, 02 Feb 2010 23:07:01 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-4340 have you tried putting her in her car seat and putting on the dryer or washing in spin cycle have you tried putting her in her car seat and putting on the dryer or washing in spin cycle

]]> By: momx4 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-4339 momx4 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:41:56 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-4339 Don't worry about what other people think!!! My son is 15 months old and I still hold him til he falls asleep. My 6 yr. old did til he was 21/2, and my 9 yr. old did til I didn't have any room left to hold him when I was pregnant with his brother. Hold them while you can... before too long, they want nothing to do with you!!! I think making them cry til they are hysterical is so wrong! Don’t worry about what other people think!!! My son is 15 months old and I still hold him til he falls asleep. My 6 yr. old did til he was 21/2, and my 9 yr. old did til I didn’t have any room left to hold him when I was pregnant with his brother. Hold them while you can… before too long, they want nothing to do with you!!! I think making them cry til they are hysterical is so wrong!

]]> By: bec http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method/comment-page-1#comment-4338 bec Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:10:31 +0000 http://thepregnantnews.com/emotions/what-do-you-think-about-the-cry-it-out-method#comment-4338 I'm a mum of a 2 year old and i was never strong enough to do it to my son. Although i am a single mum and i didn't have someone there to support me while he was screaming. I know that it works because my sister in law did it with my nephew but i just couldn't do it. I’m a mum of a 2 year old and i was never strong enough to do it to my son. Although i am a single mum and i didn’t have someone there to support me while he was screaming. I know that it works because my sister in law did it with my nephew but i just couldn’t do it.

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