when did you let the baby cry it out?
ByI’m not planning on starting to let my baby cry it out yet, she is only 7 weeks old. But I was wondering when others started. Sometimes no matter what I do she cries anyway so I didn’t know if I should even let her cry it out a little now since nothing comforts her. Believe me I’ve tried everything, the five S’s, myloccon drops, burping her, nothing works sometimes she just has gas and has to just let it pass.
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January 30th, 2010 at 9:16 am
It would be perfectly fine to let her start crying it out *sometimes* at this age. In a few weeks is when you should start letting her cry it out more often, and by 4-5 months is when she should be crying it out until she can soothe herself.
January 30th, 2010 at 9:49 am
I have the same problem with my 9 week old. Some days she just cries all day for no reason. I think that her problem is gas as well, and you just have to let them cry it out, although I can’t stand to hear her cry, and I feel bad because I can’t do anything for her to help. When she cries like that, I usually just feed her and hope and pray that she gets it out of her system.
January 30th, 2010 at 10:33 am
Don’t do cry it out until at least a year. But it wouldn’t hurt her to put her down for a minute to catch a break from the crying for a minute, but not for a long time. Babies need their needs met right away and need to know that mommy’s there for them.
Young babies usually have a fussy time of day, she’ll grow out of it.
ETA: DON”T listen to ‘beach crazed’
January 30th, 2010 at 11:29 am
This can be very frustrating… but it happens to all babies…
My daughter cries every night starting between 6-7pm til about 10… it just happens, every night….
I know it sounds silly, but here are a few things I’ve tried that works…
I hold my daughter with her facing away from me, stretched across one of my arms, like when your nursing but away from you….
Sounds, my husband crinkles the wrapper to the baby wipes, she always stops crying…. turn on the shower and walk around the bathroom, I did that for hours with my son, he would sometimes stop…..
I’m a pushover, and I hate letting my kids cry without trying to do something…. my husband has to make me sit and not do anything….. sometimes it is good for them, but I always time it, like when my daughter was 2 months old, I would give her a 10 minute limit…. if she didn’t calm down in 10 minutes, I would pick her up, now shes 3 months old, I give her a 15 minute limit….
And when you do put her down, don’t let her see you, because when she see’s you, she will want you to pick her up! And play music……calm music and water sounds always work….
Good luck!
January 30th, 2010 at 11:57 am
babywise is a child abuse guide.
look, the human infant is incredibly stressed when separated from mommy (that’s why day care is soooooo damaging.) when the infant is separated from mommy, her brain floods with cortisol. this is a stress hormone. it impairs learning and attachment.
there are many people raising children very very badly in america and england today. they raise them to be detached, unattached, sociopaths. don’t listen to them. never let a baby cry it out. it’s sick and inhumane. when moms realize that, their guilt often gets them to encourage other mothers to abuse their own children in this way, instead of sucking it up that they made a big mistake and warning no other mother to so abuse their own children.
you let her cry it out when you are ready to destroy her trust in you and teach her that the world is a miserable place where, when she is in pain, sad, scared, alone, tired, anxious, nervous, or whatever, she cannot count on mommy to take care of her. otherwise, only barbarians, the braindead, and the sociopathic do this to their infants and toddlers.
January 30th, 2010 at 11:58 am
i might start letting my baby cry it out between 3 or 4 mo. I was wondering the same thing. A book i bought called babywise says its never too early but i disagree im just gonna go on instinct. my baby ia also 7 wks and comfort nursing helps alot. Maybe that is an option for you. Nursing on demand is ok at this age and helps them get to sleep. Later i heard it can be a problem though. It seems cruel to me to let them cry but sometimes its better for you to walk away if you can,t handle it anymore. For me to hear crying is heart wrenching. The swing helps her calmdown.
January 30th, 2010 at 12:41 pm
Our pediatrician said we should let him cry after 2 weeks; that’s if he’s already ate and his diaper has been changed. Otherwise, he will get used to being carried and we won’t be able to sleep in the middle of the night. My son is 2 weeks old now and we couldn’t ignore him when he cries. We always give in and end up carrying him.
January 30th, 2010 at 1:36 pm
Never! I always thought that if one of my children was crying ( and I feel blessed because they really did not cry much) it was because they were distressed and that was their only way of telling me so i never let them for a min. think that I did not care or that they were alone in their distress. I would comfort them with shushing in their ears and put my face against theirs and hold them tight if they were fussy ,That was after i did all of the other things ,like feeding and diapering, things like that. I would rock them. I did this with all of my grand-babies also and because I gained their trust they were calm children. I always stayed calm and was never stressed because i was told that a baby could feel your stress and then they would become more stressed. I,m sorry your little one is not feeling so good. Just hang in there.
January 30th, 2010 at 2:03 pm
My baby usually gets fussy around the same time every day and its usually because she needs a nap or is just bored with what we are doing. but please please please please don’t let your 7 week old “cry-it-out”. At 7 weeks old they need to know that you are there for them, to comfort them when they are anxious or scared. The cry-it-out method is an extremely harsh method and should be discouraged. Think of how your baby feels ( especially at night), all of a sudden she starts to cry ( all of a sudden to you at least) and you just let her cry-it-out, she screams for you and still nothing she turns her head side to side trying to find comfort… nothing she continues to scream until her throat is sore and she cant possibly wail any more her crys subside… throat sore and tears weld up… she listens nothing but silence… she begins to cry again… screaming with all she has left and then unable to scream any more her needs aren’t met, she gives up and goes back to sleep ALONE. The reason your baby cries is because they need something whether it be attention, love, food whatever, they cry because its the only way they know how to communicate with you. Please if your baby cries, comfort him or her until they stop crying and their needs are met. never ever let your baby cry it out no matter what please please please. just stick with it eventually you will find something that soothes the baby.
January 30th, 2010 at 2:59 pm
don’t do it yet. 7 weeks is very young. most experts agree that it’s possible (according to infant development) to spoil a child over 6 months of age. this is when kids begin to learn that you respond to their cries with what they want and will begin to cry just to get what they want. i’d say, between 5 and 7 months, as every kid is different. i got lucky and my child has been sleeping through the night since he was 2 months. but, i rocked him to sleep until he was 7 months and then began putting him down and letting him cry it out. this only took a couple of days and now he goes to bed without a fuss.
January 30th, 2010 at 2:59 pm
Well, I’m letting my baby cry right now because she just doesn’t want anything…. no bottle no pacifier no nothing.
January 30th, 2010 at 3:01 pm
I started at about 6 months. It was really hard to listen to her cry, but I’m really glad that I did. Now she falls asleep on her own. Don’t start too soon, because you have to build up her trust in you. It’s also okay to put her down in her crib for a little while now to let her cry if you need a break. You can also try to gently push her knees into her belly to help with the gas.
January 30th, 2010 at 3:36 pm
if it’s gas try pumping her legs it worked wonders for mine!
and started to let my baby cry it out at about 4 months or so by then you should know if its crying for attention or because they need something
January 30th, 2010 at 4:14 pm
Letting a baby cry it out is cruel. It teaches the baby that their needs will not be met. Your baby cries when its needs are not being met. PLEASE, do not do this to your child, at any age!
January 30th, 2010 at 5:07 pm
no. babies at that age cry when there is something wrong. period.
sometimes it is not a diaper change or food they need, but to be comforted, to feel the beat of your heart, to be rocked, etc. patting them gently sometimes helps.
letting her just cry will only stress her little heart.
try calling her dr and asking what else might be done , or maybe if she needs to be seen.
January 30th, 2010 at 5:19 pm
I had a problem with my daughter with colic and gas. Lay her on her back, take her legs and push her knees into her stomach, that helps to get rid of a lot of gass. Also try Chamomile tea. Don’t make it too strong, that helped to sooth as well, it helps with stomach discomfort and will calm her and maybe put her to sleep. I also bough homeopathic colic pills. I would give her about 6 at a time. They disolve instantly and they are a little sweet so they like them. also try putting her on her stomach and patting her back, a little bit more than you would to burp her. I hope one of these things works for you.
January 30th, 2010 at 6:02 pm
I never let my son cry it out and he’s now 14 months. Have you tried gripe water? Mylicon never worked on him but gripe water worked great! Just remember she’s just a baby, it will pass.
January 30th, 2010 at 6:44 pm
I agree she’s too young right now, but I let my baby boy cry it out at about 2 1/2 months when the specific issue was weaning him from the pacifier. He learned really quickly how to put himself to sleep without it.
January 30th, 2010 at 7:09 pm
I dident let my son cry it out till he was almost a year, If you let them cry it out to early it is traumatizing, for them!!
January 30th, 2010 at 7:45 pm
if gas is the problem try laying her on your lap belly down with her head at the end by your knees. put your hands around her waist and massage her pelvic area. it will help her relax and pass gas. there is a pressure point right around that area. also try giving her about an ounce of water she could be getting dehydrated. drinking just formula causes gas and water will help with her being less gassy. i had the same problem with my youngest. i tried everything and the only thing that helped was the water and the massaging. if you get frustrated with her fussing, remember she will feel it and get worse. happy mom equals happy baby. good luck