Comments on: 9 month old’s first night in crib, omg.. help me!?

By: mrs_blazon

mrs_blazon — Sat, 01 May 2010 04:01:23 +0000

My son used to come in bed with me in the mornings, but he sleeps in his bed now. I think a good way to wean him from mommy’s bed is put him in his bed and play games with him. Let him see that it’s not a scary place. Then do one night with you and the next night in his bed and hopefully he’ll get more and more used to being in his bed alone at night. I hope this helps and remember this is your son every baby is different and do the method that works for you and your son. A safe method of course.

By: Tys.N.Amris..MuMa

Tys.N.Amris..MuMa — Sat, 01 May 2010 03:45:02 +0000

Hi, you just need to keep being consistent, start with his naps, put him in his cot and leave, go and check on him every 10 mins, if he keeps standing/sitting up put him down and leave again, you may need to do this countless times, but he will eventually get the message, dont talk to him or pich him up, he really does need to learn to sooth himself and fall asleep alone.

Every baby wakes up lots of times during the night but the baby that knows how to fall asleep by themselfes just goes back to sleep but a babie that has learned to be rocked, carried,or sang to sleep will wake up fully and cry and this creates a big problem.

Make sure your little one is full, nice bath maybe a story, make the hour befour bed very calm, and put him to sleep, as i said you may need to keep going in every 10 mins to make sure he is not sitting up, but it will work trust me, maybe take a few nights or even a few weeks but it is worth it, your baby needs a good night sleep, so his brain can grow.

Make sure he is having enough naps, the better a baby naps the better he will sleep at night, about 3 hours is perfect a half an hour in the morning and 2 and a half after lunch.

sometimes a baby does need to cry it out, it is the only way, if your baby has learned to sleep in your bed it will take him a while to adjust, and the best way you can help him is to leave him to it, if you are consintley there singing to him ect to get him to sleep he will get overtired and it will take longer for him to settle, you just need to leave him alone to fall asleep, again it may take time.

Be consistent is the key, and rest assure you are not damaging your baby or hurting him, you are teaching him how to self sooth, which is a very important thing for a baby to learn.

By: Brenda Star

Brenda Star — Sat, 01 May 2010 03:09:29 +0000

My son started to co-sleep when he was older. It started off when he was sick and then I got to sleep so much better that I just continued with it. He always slept in the middle so that my husband and I were the bed rails. I only tried to get him out of my bed when he was older (about 1 12/) when he was moving about too much in his sleep and was now disturbing our sleep. At that age, children have better understanding. What I did was to rock him to sleep as was my custom and put him in his own bed. He would wake in the night and come over to my bed. I would get up, rock him back to sleep and then put him in his bed again. I would repeat this each time he came to my bed. It took many a sleepless night, but I persisted (else he would still be sleeping with us). I guess that he eventually realised that mommy was serious and stopped coming over to our bed. He still comes every now and then when he has a nightmare… but I can live with that.

Your son is much younger and so you may have to try something different. I like the suggestions that are given by this web site, which just supports what others have said: http://www.askdrsears.com

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MY 9-M-O FALLS OUT OF BED

“My infant has been sleeping in our bed, and this has been wonderful. But now she is getting very active and I am worried that she will fall out of the bed. I have tried to place her in a crib after she falls asleep, but she usually wakes up and cries. I like having her in our bed but I am scared she will get hurt, especially after a daytime nap when she tries to climb down.”

A lot of babies don’t like cribs. This is what we did to our bed to make it safe. First, we lowered it by removing the frame. Just have a box spring and mattress, this way it’s low enough so that baby won’t get hurt when she rolls off. This is also important over the next year or two when she is trying to climb in and out of bed; the lower bed the easier and safer it is.

Also, try a sidecar arrangement while she’s sleeping. In this way, baby is within arm’s reach for nursing and bonding, yet mother and baby are not so close that they keep each other awake. (You can buy a special baby bed called the “Arm’s Reach® Co-Sleeper® Bassinet” that’s designed to be used next to the parent’s bed.)

You will also need to be sure your bedroom is baby-proofed. That way, when she wakes up and gets out of bed to come looking for you, she won’t get hurt by anything in the room. You can use a monitor to listen for the sounds of her waking up.

Check out our Sleep section for more tips.

Dr. Jim

By: Silky scarf

Silky scarf — Sat, 01 May 2010 02:55:55 +0000

dont feel bad for co sleeping. its natural for a baby to sleep next to its mummy not having them sleep alone when there new to the world. That’s why you both get a better night sleep for it because he feels safe. i suggest putting him in his cot in the day and he will get used to it and your more energized in the day to deal with it. Your likely to make progress when your less tired.

By: asian-q-t

asian-q-t — Sat, 01 May 2010 02:09:43 +0000

Try sleeping with a child size blanket for a couple nights, then putting in his crib. This way the blanket has your scent on it and it will hopefully comfort him.

It’s worth a try. He’ll get there but it’s going to be a bit of work.

By: tamara k

tamara k — Sat, 01 May 2010 01:40:17 +0000

My 9 month old has been in a cot since day dot, and he still sometimes does not want to sleep in there- I tried co sleeping once when I was sick but because of the height of our bed I fretted too much about his safety.

I know what I am about to suggest is ‘bad SID’s strategy’ but it has worked to get my son to stay fairly happily in the cot and allow me to get a half decent nights sleep. I have filled the cot up with noisy, light up stuffed toys and tied fun things to the top rails. I rotate the non favourite toys and the fisher price laugh and learn puppy gets removed when daddy needs to sleep (I think it’s broken- the batteries DON’T go flat!) because that thing is LOUD and Alex likes to sleep on top of it- which sets it off every five seconds!

By: Jacob's Mommy

Jacob's Mommy — Sat, 01 May 2010 01:28:11 +0000

Oh no poor baby! I do not believe in CIO method at all. Your baby relies on you for comfort and when you ignore he will feel worthless! You shouldn’t try to move him to his crib so fast. You need to do it slowly. For his naps during the daytime let him sleep in his crib while you sit next to it. Read a book or something. Let him get used to it first and feel safe there. Keep doing this a little more every day. Just be extra careful at night since you know he can get up and crawl off the bed now. Don’t be mean and ignore your baby when he calls for you! Your all he’s got!

By: Brandyanne

Brandyanne — Sat, 01 May 2010 01:09:20 +0000

Babies are in cribs for their own safety, from now on make sure he is all partied out, well fed, dry, warm and sleepy before you put him in, also it helps to get one of those nice moving crib light up toys like a fish tank or a swirly ceiling lamp toy to help relax him and keep him occupied until he bores himself to sleep. It wont take more than a few days to get him used to sleeping in his own big boy bed.

Be strong Mom, cold turkey is hard but worth the fight.

Also. bumper pads! The whole way around. Stuffed animals and a nice flat pillow.

By: Heidi

Heidi — Sat, 01 May 2010 00:40:04 +0000

Hi, sorry to hear you are having a rough time. Don’t blame yourself for the cosleeping, you most probably did what was best for the both of you – you both probably slept more than you would have otherwise.

This is a good age to transition to his own crib and the best way is to go gently, step by step. A cosleeper (side car bed attached to your bedside) would be nice: it is a safe place, still near you but he does get used to having his own place. A small mattress next to your bed is a good option too. If this goes well for a while, you can move him further away from you little by little, first still in your room, later on in his own room.

To help him fall asleep, you can help him by holding and rocking him, then putting him down asleep or drowsy, and little by little put him down a bit earlier. A regular bedtime routine and a well suited sleep schedule also help him fall asleep more easily.

So the main message is: transition slowly, you can help him without him having to cry it out. Good luck!

By: Alyssa

Alyssa — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 23:52:52 +0000

What I did was put my son in his bed and he cried but don’t go pick him up. Just let him cry he needs to learn to sleep in his own bed. He will cry go in your room and turn up the TV or something. No one likes to hear a baby cry but he must learn. Good luck. And don’t give in. Don’t do it. He’ll end up like my brother 14 and still sleeps in my parents floor they can’t get anytime to their selves.