Question just for Mommy’s?
ByHow do you feel about cosleeping? My second daughter has been in the bed with me since I brought her home from the hospital. My first was in a crib because I thought that was what was suppossed to be done. Now she sleeps with me as well. I enjoy having both my children in the bed with me because I can be close with them and cuddle with them all night. Does anyone else share my views?
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17 Comments
April 23rd, 2010 at 5:46 am
aww, thats great! Of course I wouldn’t do it all the time, just every once in a while, as your kids might get too used to it and won’t go to sleep without being beside mommy at night. You won’t want to get that started do you?
April 23rd, 2010 at 5:59 am
My husband rolls on top of me in his sleep, so there is no way I would bring a child into the bed with us until they were at least age 1.
April 23rd, 2010 at 6:51 am
my baby is three months old and she sleeps with me every night but other people think that i will regret it in the future. i think that the only time you would run into a problem with that is if you want to have alone time with your man.
April 23rd, 2010 at 7:00 am
Mine is 5 and though he has his own bed he is always in mind and I don’t think there is anything wrong with and I love it. He is such a sweet kid and he loves to snuggle.
April 23rd, 2010 at 7:38 am
When my husband and I brought our son home, we had him in our bed for a couple of weeks, then he went to his cradle and then crib. I enjoyed co-sleeping, and will still do it at times if our son is sick or he has a nightmare. For the most part though, our son sleeps on his own. I want him to leave the house at some time, and if I keep babying him he will just feel content to live with us.
April 23rd, 2010 at 8:17 am
My daughter is 6, and she still sleeps with me. I know many people would find that strange, and I dont tell anyone, but I really like it and she does too.
April 23rd, 2010 at 8:52 am
when i brought my 1st daughter home from the hospital, i’d fall asleep with her in my bed while i was feeding her… one morning i woke up with her head covered up with the blanket (she wasn’t even a month old).. and that stopped!!.. she didn’t and doesn’t sleep in my bed…(i like my alone time with my hubby)…..i am currently 36 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child and i don’t plan on putting her in my bed either… have you people heard of a baby suffocating??? apparently not!!!!…..having such a small infant sleeping in your bed isn’t only dangerous, but it’s not good on the child when they get older.. they need to be in their own bedroom…….do you want your 16 year old sleeping with you and their dad?????
April 23rd, 2010 at 9:35 am
my son sleeps with me part of the night. hes breastfed so its much easier on both of us for me to just put him in bed with me latch him on and us both go back to sleep.
A family bed is the norm throughout the world. If you feel safe co sleeping then go for it.
April 23rd, 2010 at 10:16 am
I have NO problem with cosleeping up into a certain age. I would love to have a time of day that I am able to cuddle with my daughter like that. She NEVER cuddles with me because she’s so independent and wants to do her “own thing”…unless she’s hurt or if she wakes up at night….but it makes THOSE time so much more sweet when I know she really needs me. She shouldn’t need to be touching me to go to sleep. At a certain age, children should be able to sleep in their own beds. My niece is 11 and STILL sleeps in the bed with her parents (who are separated). That is too old. My deal is that you are teaching your children to be their own person and be independent, right? How can you teach your children to be independent when they are still sleeping with you past 5. Mind you, I’m not putting you down. You are your own parent and can choose what you will for your own children, but if you are just keeping in the bed so you can cuddle with them all night, I feel that it might be a little selfish on your part. They are kids now, but you have to let go little by little or else you’re going to have a child that doesn’t know how to be on his/her own when they get grown.
April 23rd, 2010 at 10:32 am
I love my kids with all my heart and I love the beds they sleep in too. I think its fine the first few weeks .. but kids need to learn to wind down , relax and be able to put themself to sleep. It is so important for them to have mastered this. I am sorry but the only one I want to sleep next to at night is my husband.
April 23rd, 2010 at 10:59 am
i co-slept with my oldest until he was four…..then, i co-slept with my middle till she was two and a half…then she moved into brother’s bed….now, i am co-sleeping with my babe who is now 19 months old…he, too, will transition when he is about 2 or 3……i love it and think it is great and natural….it makes for more sleep and is good for the baby to be by your beating heart for hours at a time….i do not place mine between me and my husband….they have always had the outside and have always taken up half of our bed out of fear that they would roll off…this has never hindered my relationship with my husband and it is what many other countries do……i support you!….also, children learn to be independent by being secure in their home…co-sleeping does not hinder independence……besides, who says babies should be independent?
April 23rd, 2010 at 11:54 am
Not a problem. Slept with all four of mine. My first two til they were 6 and 4 and my belly was so big with #3, they had to move to their own beds. Then #3 til he was about 8. #4 was born when #3 was 3, and then we again had two in bed with us. My youngest, now 12, still sleeps with me. I love it.
April 23rd, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Absolutely. Co sleeping is a wonderful way to keep your children close, for everyone to get sleep and is the norm in many parts of the world.
I co slept with my daughter and only moved her when she started sleeping more soundly in her own bed rather than with me.
Co-sleeping is neither right nor wrong; it is only right or wrong FOR YOU. If it’s working, then don’t worry about it
Here are some great sites with info on co-sleeping that will make you feel more at ease:
http://www.cosleeping.org/ – several links on co-sleeping
Just remember that you’ll want to practice safe co-sleeping habits: no drugs, alcohol or fluffy bedding and no gaps between the headboard/wall and mattress.
April 23rd, 2010 at 12:13 pm
Works out great for us. I love it. It never worked out with the oldest – she had some digestive problems as a baby and had to sleep in a special bed, and I regret that we missed out on it. Many nights we spent on the floor next to her bed, though.
Thankfully, the baby sleeps with us now. She’s 9 months and has slept in our bed since birth. I love it, she loves it, and I don’t worry even a little that she’ll be sleeping with us until she’s 16. For goodness sake, an INFANT does not learn codependency from something like this. If anything, they learn to be even more secure.
As far as intimacy- people do realize that it doesn’t HAVE to happen at night and in a bed, right? Mix it up a little, even if the kids DON’T sleep with you.
April 23rd, 2010 at 12:36 pm
I have the same view on co sleeping as you. I love it! My son has been co sleeping with me since he was born. He is now 13 months old and my family and friends give me a hard time about it. I just learned to ignore them. It’s a once in a lifetime experience that they are missing out on.
April 23rd, 2010 at 1:08 pm
You are doing this only for YOUR benefit, not the children’s. It is not a good idea to cosleep. As parents, it’s our job to foster independence in our children, not to use them for our own comfort.
You should be only with your husband in bed, working on a wonderful married relationship and intimacy so your children have happy parents!
April 23rd, 2010 at 1:13 pm
well i no im not a mother but, my daughter never new her mother, since she left when she was 1 month old. untill my daughter was 10 she used to sleep in my bed when she had nightmares, or if it was raining heavily outside, (we had a tin roof, and it scared her)
cheers mate,
joel.