Did anyone else have a fight like this with their mom?
ByQuestion by Jenna Lee: Did anyone else have a fight like this with their mom?
All my mom cares about is that the house is clean when she gets home. And she is rarely home because she has a different date every night! She always makes promises to me and then changes her mind and never wants to talk about anything. Like yesterday for example: When she woke up I tried to talk to her about my room. She said she didn’t feel like talking. Later I asked her what we were doing for Christmas, she didn’t want to talk right then. After dinner I asked her about my aquarium that she said I could fill up and then she said she changed her mind. I ‘m not aloud to fill it up. End of discussion.
I’m so sick of this! I can’t stand her anymore! This morning I didn’t say one word to her at all until she came in my room. Here was our conversation:
(mom): “Jenna, do you hate me?”
(me): “Yes,”
(mom): “Do you think I’m a horrible mother?”
(me): “Yeah”
(mom): “Why?”
(me): “Becuase you lie. And if something isn’t your way then it doesn’t happen.”
Then she just left and did her hair and makeup. I heard her crying but I didn’t really care. Then she asked me if I wanted to go get a christmas tree! I told her before that this year I wasn’t helping because I didn’t care if we had a real one or not. She told me that my brothers were going and I should come too. I told her that that was just more of a reason for me to stay home and they left.
Usually I feel guilty about doing stuff like this but I don’t care anymore! Did anyone else ever have a fight like this?
I just reread what I wrote and I sound like a total brat. I just can’t stand her anymore and I hate her.
If I apoligize I won’t mean it because I don’t.
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Answer by ★ᴋoᴙtᴎiε
Take a chill pill, my friend.
I suggest you get out of the house for a while.
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17 Comments
June 22nd, 2011 at 4:51 pm
No. I never in my life could imagine speaking to my mother like that. How incredibly disrespectful, rude and down right mean you are. What if, God forbid, something happened to her tonight and she died. Would you really be happy with the way you spoke to her?! I suggest you go apologize……. and mean it!
June 22nd, 2011 at 5:14 pm
I feel you there. I have these kinds of fights with my mom quite often. Only thing is my mom is still married to my dad.
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June 22nd, 2011 at 5:48 pm
Thats very sad,
I really think you really need to talk to your mum about how you feel, don’t give her attitude, just say that you need to talk to her and if she says she doesn’t have time say that you dont care and you are going to say what you need to say.
Maybe your being a bit over the top, she did try to offer you all family time by picking a christmas tree together.
Its a tough one that will require work from both of you..
Just try, Mums are so precious.
June 22nd, 2011 at 5:54 pm
What a horrible thing to say to your mother, that you hate her. It would tear me apart if my son ever said that to me.
At least you realize you sound like a brat because you really do.
(and yes I used to fight with my mother when I was younger but now am older and a mother myself and truly appreciate her for everything she has done for me)
June 22nd, 2011 at 6:40 pm
Well you were a little harsh on her
But I’m guessing you’re a teenager and of course you’re gonna act like that. That’s reality, teenagers aren’t always gonna be nice. And yeah you probably do feel guilty, but its done. There’s nothing you can do except apologize. Tell her that you wish you went to get a tree and you never meant to be this mean to her. Be nice and if she’s pissy, still be as nice as possible (no matter how hard it is).
I’ve never had a fight like that, but I’m not surprised.
PS I’ve re-read plenty of MY questions, oh damn lol its terrible
Edit: I was trying to be nice to you, but when I read that you wouldn’t mean that you were sorry. Thats it. You are a disrespectful brat who thinks she’s all that. You’re mom was being plenty nice to you, and if not she has the right too, she’s your mom. You’re not the adult, she’s the adult. If I were you I would hate myself
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June 22nd, 2011 at 7:15 pm
How old are you? If your going through adolescence that’s it. Emotional changes. I have them too it’s normal. I just fought with my mom but we are cool again.
1. You should have went with her for a tree because then she would find out you truly care and good things could happen.
2. Sit down with her and talk. Ask her why she has different dates and share your feelings. You shouldn’t hate your mom. You are going through puberty maybe i don’t know what age you are, but you shouldn’t take it out on her.
3. How does she treat your brothers? Is she nice to them. If she is ask them some questions.
I wish you good luck.
June 22nd, 2011 at 7:56 pm
Its christmas time…..sit down with your mom and talk to her about how you both feel and why you may be bickering back and forth. When you get so angry at your mom and you think its the end of the world….be thankful you have her. You have a roof over your head, a computer with the internet to get on……looks like your doing ok.
June 22nd, 2011 at 8:43 pm
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No, I don’t recall having a fight with my mother like that before. What you need to do is look back and think about everything she’s done just to make you happy.
My mom is now working two jobs because she wasn’t making enough money with the first job she had. I know I can’t get everything I want, and I’m glad I don’t. I appreciate my mom and I’m enjoying every second that I can with her while I can. I love her a lot.
It’s been a long time since I acted like the way you are now, but now that I’m older, I’ve learned from my past. It’s Christmas time ‘hun…spread some joy. You were a little harsh on her though, be glad you have shelter over your head and food to eat.
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June 22nd, 2011 at 8:56 pm
Holy crap no! I’ve never said to my mom I hate her and that she’s a terrible mother. How rude! You mom might have a lot of stuff going on right now, that she just feels distracted. Don’t you ever have your “off” moments? Has your mom ever told you “I hate you! Your a terrible daughter!” Think how much that would hurt! PMS! Hello!! Sometimes you don’t wanna talk when you’re all moody and stuff.
You are a spoiled, ungrateful, snot-nose, brat! Your mom even offered to take you to get a Christmas tree. She’s doing her best.
Grow up.
June 22nd, 2011 at 9:37 pm
I don’t have these fights with my mom, but I do with my dad. That’s exactly how my dad is, the only difference is that he could care less if I hated him. He wouldn’t dare to ask me if I hated him. I know how you feel all too well. My dad works all day, comes home, and does one of five things: Gets on the computer, watches TV, goes outside to maintain our yard, calls his parents, or drinks. He never comes in my room. He never tries to have a conversation with any of us. The only time he wants to talk to my family is if he needs to yell and complain about something. so unimportant and minor.
I know how you feel. Sometimes I lash out at him and tell him everything and he always yells right back and tells me I’m stupid and I don’t know what I’m saying. I put up with him though because I have nowhere else to go. So I know how you feel..and I don’t see you and your mom’s conversation at all rude. lol
June 22nd, 2011 at 9:59 pm
yes its normal
me and my moms fights get a little more intense than that lol
we scream and stuff
i know what you mean and you will get over it even if it doesn’t seem like it right now
June 22nd, 2011 at 10:50 pm
In the past, my mother and I had similar arguments similar to your situation. As I got older, and more mature, I realized that it was just a part of adolescence. As a mother, raising a teen can be risky business. Although some mothers do things that may seem just totally bizarre, they all have a reason for doing so. Don’t think of yourself as a brat, because just about every young lady that goes through adolescence has this problem with their mother. It’s just that stage in between child and adult that causes any young person to be confused, and misunderstood. Just take time, and eventually your mother will come around to talking to you. Or, you can try asking her why she doesn’t relate to you at all whatsoever. If a verbal conversation doesn’t work, then try leaving her a note, or sending her an email that you know she will receive. Eventually you’ll understand your actions, and you will understand her actions. Hope this helps! Keep your head up kiddo!
June 22nd, 2011 at 10:54 pm
whoa that is almost opposite at my house. My mom will always try to talk to me and I usually say I don’t feel like talking. I am not allowed to NOT talk to her, I have to or she will think I hate her. She asks me all the time if I do and I say no. I use to hate my mom but she doesn’t scream at me like she use to.
You just need to talk to her about it. Go for a walk and calm down. I don’t really blame you because if I had a problem and I wanted to talk about it I would be pissed if she blew me off like that.
June 22nd, 2011 at 11:19 pm
ok well she is ur mom and she realizes that she had done wrong,i think she is confused within herself about what to do.
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i think u need to start bonding with her by just taking small steps.
tell her that the dates are too much and if she cares then she would send time with you at least 2 evenings in a week.u need to say that instead of shouting,and write a note and go to mates house for the night,so whens she comes home she can relax and rethink without an argument coming to a beginning as she acts on the situation straight away,write on th note” mom,i am gone to …(fiends name)’s house,i will be back before 2pm(a time to sort stuff out,not the evening),i feel really unimportant in ur life at the moment as u date many men instead of taking time to do anything with me,thanks and plz think about this,for 2moro,thanks mom,i love you,remember that
xoxo
good luck
June 22nd, 2011 at 11:47 pm
if she was actually responding to what you said, even if her attempt wasn’t perfect, you probably should have given her a chance. she is not going to go away, why not be on good terms with her?
June 23rd, 2011 at 12:37 am
That’s like me and my father (I can’t stand to call him ‘Dad’ anymore).
Just because they are your parents, doesn’t mean you have to love them.
I don’t think you sound like a brat because I can relate. && why are parents allowed to be mean, rude && disrespectful, yet not their children?
I have totally given up on my father, he had crossed the line just too much. I don’t talk to him…just with one word answers.
To answer your question, I fought with my father like that, but not my Mom.
You have to face it, adults lie, go back on their word && endlessly ‘change their mind’. Just don’t let these people get to you, there is no point in apologzing if you don’t mean it. It’s just a waste of words.
June 23rd, 2011 at 12:50 am
CHILL OUT! making ur mom cry wow ! but i am not playing th blame game if my mom was like that i move out have an strongly worded converstaion with your mom and explain how u feel ignored . it will make your realationship stronger