Does society have a bias that being a stay at home mother is harder than being a stay at home dad?
ByI am in a couple SAHD groups and we talk frequently that other people seem to think SAHDs stay home all day playing Guitar Hero while the kids are left to fend for themselves.
I know there have been a ton of strides in making the amount of work the stay at home mother does count for more in society, but is there a general view that SAHDs kinda cut corners more than moms do?
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9 Comments
January 27th, 2010 at 5:49 am
I don’t think people think they do any less of a job then the mother’s. I know personally alot of people tend to look down at SAHD’s because it is usually the father who is the bread winner and people have a hard time accepting the fact that sometimes roles are switched. There is nothing wrong with being a SAHD. People are ridiculous sometimes and very judgemental.
January 27th, 2010 at 5:57 am
Whoever says it’s harder has got to be out of their minds! Whichever one is staying home with the kids… Mom OR Dad… it would be equally as hard.
January 27th, 2010 at 6:14 am
i stick up for you! but yeah i agree that alot of people think dad’s aren’t as caring for their kids. it all depends on the person male or female.
January 27th, 2010 at 6:54 am
People judge a book by its cover. If your kids are well behaved, clean, and have manners then no I do not think so. If your kids are running around like little terrors, very rude, and always dirty then yes some might say you are cutting corners.
In today’s way of living, there is no room for closed minded people. Everything from SAHD to gay couples raising kids is being accepted in a more respectable manner. I think “traditional” family settings are becoming less frequent and society is making big strides to accepting people’s different choices.
January 27th, 2010 at 7:07 am
It’s equally hard for mums and dads. Dads might find it a bit harder because the women support each other more wheras Dads are in the minority and may find it harder to find a good friend who’s in the same situation.
January 27th, 2010 at 7:35 am
Honestly I don’t like the idea of a SAHD. I feel that as a man you need to help provide for your family. I know that’s probably something you hear everyday that’s why you have your support group. To answer your question I do think that SAHD cut corners.
January 27th, 2010 at 8:21 am
Probably, because fathers in general tend to have more laid back parenting styles that mothers who tend to obsess about parenting because it is attached to our gender esteem. Think about how often you hear the term “unfit mother.” Now have you ever heard a father called that? I don’t think I have. Even in custody cases the mother who wins sole custody is deemed “more suitable” but fathers aren’t usually called unfit.
Raising children is hard no matter who happens to be the one providing primary care.
January 27th, 2010 at 9:01 am
i think this is a really good question. i personally don’t know any stay at home dads, but i think that ANY parent that stays home has a hard job as long as they actually take care of their kids. a stay at home mom can sit around all day watching soap operas while their kids fend for themselves just like a stay at home dad can sit around and play guitar hero all day. i think it goes both ways. what people think in general about stay at home dads I PERSONALLY believe is different from what they think about stay at home moms. i don’t know why but apparently to SOME people gender matters when it comes to who stays at home (which is crap.)
January 27th, 2010 at 9:14 am
Um, going by experience with people I actually know…Yes, SAHD do cut more corners. If you are an exception to that, well then, great. Good for you. Maybe you can enlighten some people I know. ( Their wives would be very appreciative!)