my hussband posted this and i found it?
ByQuestion by Blaze Baby: my hussband posted this and i found it?
Baby blues…?
I get frusturated with having to take care of my son mostly all by myself. My wife is a “stay at home mom” and probably has postpartum depression so it doesnt workout that well. She loves to be with our son but is afraid to take care of him by all herself. She’s somewhat fine when she takes care of him at night but as soon as i come home to work she tells me to take care of him. I’m very tired when i get back, and i dont have enough money to hire a babysitter. Please tell me what i can do to either fix the situation or help my wife out with her depression.
2 days ago – 1 day left to answer.
what he didnt tell u is i have depression because he hits me, calls me horrable names(fat ungly whore, nasty B****) tells me im wothless and a horrible person and a horrible mom. he treats me horibley and now is asking why im depressed?
he also cheated on me while iswas pregnant, then 2 other times after our son was born with the same girl
this is his post
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aud9PDItUgMpQg8tMG22wpXty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080618075207AASgihU&show=7#profile-info-XhDItyqBaa
sorry i just wanted any one who read it or commented to knw the facts.
i do want to be with my son all the time i just get panicky and have an anxiaty attack before im left alone with him, i have PPD and i have major depression but im fine otherwise. and the panick and anxiety is only like once a week not every day
people calling me a bad mom doesnt help, and he was only like this after i was 6 months pregnant b4 that he was really sweet and careing, i thought he was just fed up with my hormones thats why he was mean then, so i didnt have a baby knwing he wold be brought up in this kind of home.
and we dont fight around the baby
yea this is his post when i saw it he went on and deleted his account that made the poster name change to john doe, it was dj shadow wen i saw it
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Answer by ginapery
why are you still with this loser???????
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24 Comments
June 21st, 2011 at 10:17 am
If you are not happy with him get a divorce. The mother almost always wins custity of the child if you want him.
June 21st, 2011 at 10:49 am
ok thanks i feel so much better now.
June 21st, 2011 at 11:49 am
Why are you still with him?
June 21st, 2011 at 12:16 pm
The only person I feel bad in this is the baby… no one wants to care for him, apparently. Sad.
He sounds like a jerk, yet you’re still with him. I have no sympathy.
June 21st, 2011 at 12:48 pm
thats mean though, im sorry for you , if he did that, why are you with him? but i guess ur being so strong, for ur childs sake, but i really think hes not treating you right hun, if hes done all that to you x
really wish i could help , but i dunno.
to be honest, i think u should leave him, you wouldnt want ur child in that environment
x
June 21st, 2011 at 1:32 pm
Wow!
June 21st, 2011 at 2:28 pm
Well, he should not have done any of those things, but I have a hard time finding sympathy for you. I have had friends in similar situations and you know as well as I that it will never stop unless you make it and leave. Until you have had enough and leave him this will be your life…it’s your decision to make.
June 21st, 2011 at 2:55 pm
Well then you shoud have left the ba$tard long ago.
And why would you ask this a$$hole who is abusive to take care of the baby?
You both sound ridiculous to me
June 21st, 2011 at 3:44 pm
I don’t understand why you are with this man!! I would seperate and tell him that the ONLY way you will consider getting back to him is if you both go to counseling and if in six months things have improved… then I’d go back. BUT keep up the counseling!
You teach others how to treat you and you’ve taught him that what he’s doing is okay. If it wasn’t okay, you wouldn’t be there. Raise that bar for yourself. And if you won’t do it for yourself do it for your son!!
If your son is raised in that atmosphere he could grow up to be an abuser too. And he could resent you for having allowed him to live in that situation when you have control to remove him. I also wouldn’t let the father have custody of him without supervision. If you really believe he will never start abusing that child then you need to get a reality check!
I get irritated when I read comments about “the abused being strong by trying to stay”. It takes a WEAK woman to stay and put up with abuse. It takes a STRONG woman to have the courage to say NO and leave it!
June 21st, 2011 at 3:55 pm
Get rid of his ass.
Don’t be depressed about him, he sounds pretty worthless if he has to talk to you like that.
On the other hand, it sounds like he’s trying to get some help.
Try counseling if you really think it is worth salvaging. Otherwise, get on with your life.
June 21st, 2011 at 4:14 pm
Sounds like a healthy relationship to me. Especially for your child.
June 21st, 2011 at 5:09 pm
I think you need to answer this one on your own
June 21st, 2011 at 5:34 pm
You guys need to grow up and be mature. If he is abusive towards you, you should be gone by now. You’re putting your life and your child’s life in DANGER!
June 21st, 2011 at 6:09 pm
So why are you still with him?
June 21st, 2011 at 7:06 pm
It is so wonderful you brought a helpless baby into your hell.
Good job there with using the brain.
June 21st, 2011 at 7:56 pm
wow, it sounds like you got yourself a pretty scary problem. i kow it may be scary to get the law involved because of your situation, with him being abusive and all. but one day you and your son needs to go out to a friends house, or to the mall. just get away from him for a while. also, when you think you can handle, and you are ready, call thePOLICE!!! or visit the police station. this is whats best for you
June 21st, 2011 at 8:30 pm
He’s putting dirt on your name,what an a**,sounds like he’s doing this for attention,trying to make you out to be crazy,I hate men like that,stop dealing with the looser,he’s not even worth being with,get yourself together and leave that b*tch a*s,you call a husband
June 21st, 2011 at 9:15 pm
why the hell are you still with him,
i mean i know divorce is not the answer to it,
but why post stuff instead of talking it out with him,
and are you sure its really him,
maybe you’re the one who is misunderstanding this all.
but he is a jerk for treating you like that.
June 21st, 2011 at 9:44 pm
if you have parents take the kid there and leave this guy. hey guy you feel big hitting a woman? she should file for divorce and take you for everything you have. you are a coward!
June 21st, 2011 at 10:25 pm
feel bad for u
June 21st, 2011 at 10:26 pm
Well i hope your telling the truth . If not he is going to be mad at you for what i told him.
June 21st, 2011 at 11:15 pm
unfortunately i went thru the same situation,got married crazy in love with him,then got pregnant and had a son,but he(my husband) had a drinking problem,and became very violent he would hit me,and made me loose my self steem completely,i even tried to kill myself well i stood by him in the “name of love” and then one day he just left with another woman…..abandoning me and my son.
P.S i hadn’t realize how valuable i was
but when he left i got my own place was able to work and give my son a wonderful and peaceful life.as for me i became confident and learned to love my self and to love my baby above everything..2 years later i met a man who respects,and loves me very much and i couldnt be happier.
point is get away from him asap you will suffer at first but you will find what is best or you and most importantly for your baby,who should be the most important person for you,try looking for help such as counseling for domestic violence victims and so. trust me he is not worth it and you dont deserve what he des to you. GOD BLESS YOU AND MAY HE HELP YOU MAKE THE BEST DECISION.
June 21st, 2011 at 11:57 pm
I agree with Dani..poor child.
you two are obviously not emotionally stable enough for this..poor child
June 22nd, 2011 at 12:23 am
You have to think of your child. This man sounds like a monster and twists things to his advantage. Find away to get away from him. It won’t get better and you as a mother have a responsibility to protect your child. You can take care of your child. You need to look down deep and realize how much you love him/ her and it will happen. Remember no one is a perfect parent and you will make mistakes. But the biggest mistake is staying with this man that treats you like s***. You deserve better!!!!