Should I become a stay-at-home mom?
ByQuestion by Milana P: Should I become a stay-at-home mom?
Don’t really like my job, but really like the career path I’m on. My oldest will start kindergarten this fall, my youngest will start next year. I couldn’t wait to get back to work when I stayed home, now I miss seeing how they’re doing, who they play with, what they eat. I miss being “just a mom” but I don’t want to give up on myself, either.
My boss says I can go part time if I want, but my husband is pressuring me to quit. I would love to hear from men as well as women on this.
Best answer:
Answer by TG
Go part time. You can work when they are at school, maintain your job skills and career, and still get to spend lots of time with your kids. Good for you!
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12 Comments
May 31st, 2011 at 8:03 pm
I would try the part time thing first, before you quit. This will help you decide since you will have a little of both worlds. I think if you quit now , you will wonder the rest of your life what could have been!
May 31st, 2011 at 8:22 pm
You may want to say what your current career is. That could give me some insight of what your going through or suggest.
May 31st, 2011 at 8:42 pm
i would go part time because with them in school, you’ll probably be bored when they’re not home. and part time, you can have mom time when they’re home from school and you time when they’re at school and you’re working. best of both worlds for you!
May 31st, 2011 at 8:43 pm
You just want what you can’t have! You need to MAKE YOUR MIND UP and then go with that and stay with that!
May 31st, 2011 at 8:51 pm
I would take up your bosses suggestion of going part time and see how things work out. If it doesn’t work for you then you can quit. Tell your hubby you want to still have a career and that you are going to see if working part time will work and if not you will quit.
May 31st, 2011 at 9:51 pm
Well our plan is for me to me a stay at home mom when your little one gets here. It’s not for everyone I know that, who knows it may not before me. I think you should give the part time thing a try. That way your get to spend more time with the kids, but you still get to work & be out in the real world with grown-ups
May 31st, 2011 at 10:46 pm
Yes become a stay at home mom and raise your kids and watch them grow up! That is the best thing a mother can do for their children is always be there for them!
May 31st, 2011 at 11:29 pm
Part-time is the IDEAL.
Can you afford to go part-time??
May 31st, 2011 at 11:52 pm
Do what you really want to do, not what your husband is pressuring you to do. He isn’t being fair to you, and if you give in to what he wants, you won’t have been fair to you either. Your boss offering to let you work part time is a good compromise and a great chance that most people would not get. That really seems like the best way to go.
May 31st, 2011 at 11:55 pm
You should go back to work part time that way you can still be with your children part of the day. When your youngest child goes to school then maybe you can go to work full time. My daughter-in-law had worked then when she had become pregnant she had quit work after the baby was born. After my grandson was still small then she went back to work. Her job was still open for her and my grandson was put into daycare. She now has a better job and my grandson is now going to school full time. If you decide not to work then you could end up being sorry after you get older by not getting out and doing things for yourself. I was a stay at home mother for years and then after my youngest was in high school I went to work. I hadn’t worked in years. If you decide to be a stay at home mom then you could decide to have a business at home and make money while being at home.
June 1st, 2011 at 12:11 am
work and a carreer makes you feel like your going somewhere and you have a future. i think that raising your children to be good people when they get older is a good enough reward. just knowing that your babies have it good because they had a loving mother who showed them the ropes. every child needs a mother to nurish them and give them the parent they deserve. while your husband is at work you can spend quality time with your babies. imagine what your kids would turn out to be if the didnt have their real parents there to guide the way. then you can have your whole family go on outtings. like taking your kids to their first disneyland trip or to their first movie. you wouldnt really be giving yourself up. you can always work for the schools and help in the after school projects. being a good parent might not give you a degree but it will give your kids a better chance at life.
June 1st, 2011 at 1:00 am
That’s great to be able to work part time! I’ve enjoyed doing this for several years. It’s a great solution for moms, but there aren’t many openings available. You can be home with the kids a lot and still keep some income. If you’re working full time now, the kids will be with you more. People who work parttime are able to make real contributions to their community, too! *
Just be aware that part-time has its own problems.
It may be hard to find someone to watch your kids, because babysitters and daycare have to reserve the space for your child, and they would have an empty slot those hours when the children aren’t there.
If work is busy, bosses often expect you to work more hours to fill in–since obviously you have the time. (Although, again, you might have to scramble for that extra childcare.) While if things slow down, the obvious solution is for the boss to cut your hours since he doesn’t have to give you 40 a week.
Full time working moms don’t have much time to do stuff, but they have lots of money to make up for it, and can eat out, hire a housekeeper, etc. Stay at home moms don’t have much money, but they have more time to do things themselves and can shop economically. Part timers are tired and don’t have as much money to spare, but other people both expect them to help out with things (like at school) and pay for stuff.
If your husband wants you to quit anyway, go ahead and try the parttime. You’ll get more of an idea of what life without that paycheck is like. while your children will be happy to have your around more.