What is thing the worst thing about being a stay at home dad or mum?
By
Related posts:
- Does society have a bias that being a stay at home mother is harder than being a stay at home dad?
- I am going to be a stay at home dad?
- stay at home dad that does everything AND I MEAN EVERYTHING?
- Has your partner offered to be a stay at home dad?
- Wives: How do you feel about your hubby being a stay-at-home dad?
13 Comments
January 27th, 2010 at 6:07 pm
For me, the feeling of isolation from the outside world and concern for losing the career skills I’ve worked so hard to develop. I just couldn’t handle it, and am very lucky to have my mother as our nanny so that I can have my career.
EDIT* I read someones answer about not bringing in income…that was a big motivator for me as well. I’m thankful to have a great career with excellent benefits, and I don’t want to jeopardize that by leaving my job since those benefits will provide security for our future.
January 27th, 2010 at 6:50 pm
maybe boredom if your kids aren’t babies anymore…
January 27th, 2010 at 7:40 pm
Sometimes I feel helpless when I can’t bring an income into the house. My hubby and I both want me staying at home. We struggle at times but money is not everything in our family. I love being able to be home when my kids get home from school, helping with homework. I get rewarded every time my daughter or son tells me thank you.
January 27th, 2010 at 7:44 pm
The lack of human contact and the unchanging scenery.
January 27th, 2010 at 8:05 pm
housework (which i used to split evenly with my husband but now that i’m home obviously it makes sense for me to do most of it).
i love my kids. i hate cleaning.
January 27th, 2010 at 8:42 pm
Being able to go nowhere without a huge hassle. So as a result I just stay home all the time. Extreme boredom and sometimes feel helpless.
January 27th, 2010 at 9:19 pm
its u
January 27th, 2010 at 10:07 pm
Being told I have it so “easy”….
Staying home to take care of 4 others full-time isn’t always as easy as one may think. Having everything in the home fall solely on your shoulders.
January 27th, 2010 at 10:59 pm
I can’t decide if it is the lack of time you get to take for yourself or being isolated from everyone else. Its fun and I love watching my son grow up but its also lonely and very frustrating.
January 27th, 2010 at 11:48 pm
The worst thing about being home for me is the sheer amount of work i do everyday. Im not a traditional stay at home mom taking care of toddlers. Im a mom of 3 school age children and I take care of my husband. I work here from about 5am til around 11pm at night. My down time is here on answers when my husband is napping or the kids are at school. I have taken on the role of mom and dad. I do my best but the house isnt perfect anymore. My laundry room looks like a tornado hit a clothing store. The dishes are NOT always done. The meals lately are lacking. And i break down crying from frustration when it gets too hard. I was raised in a traditional home so to speak. And my biggest challenge is accepting that my best doesnt have to be perfect. And that my best is all i can be. Things may not get easier but im trying to accept that.
January 28th, 2010 at 12:17 am
I’ve been a stay @ home Mom 4 the past 3 years. My children are 17 & 10. There are numerous things that I consider staying @ home as being negative.
1) People think it’s so easy, you’re so lucky, & that u don’t
work
2) You don’t get paid, given the respect or appreciation of all
that u do
3) The lack of adult conversation
4) You don’t (in my case) have the freedom to get up & go
whenever u please
5) You’re a cook, maid, taxi driver, teacher, repair person,
gardener, etc.,etc.,etc.
What really gets my goat, is that my Husband of over 20 years told me that I didn’t have to have a job, because he makes enough for the both of us. And tells me that I don’t have a job.
Now that I don’t have my own money, he doesn’t give me a dime. He considers the grocery money as giving me money. So I’ve tried to get a job, & the small Town that I live in considers me either over qualified or they want to hire the young High School/College kids.
But being there when my kids go to school, & I’m here when they come home, I wouldn’t change it for the world!
January 28th, 2010 at 12:40 am
The worst thing is having to fight the stereotype that we’re lazy, boring people who sponge off our spouses and have no life outside of our children and homes.
January 28th, 2010 at 1:29 am
the worse thing is not being able to devote any me time in my day… I take care of my boys and they go off to school and then i have the entire day of housework and taking care of my mom and today is my laundry day and i have 14 loads of laundry and nurses in and out of the house doing therapy for my mom and my hubby is home with bronchitis and i am being pulled in different directions and there is never enough hours in the day for me time… i get on the computer once in awhile when mom falls asleep and hubby naps…