Ok Mommies, I really really need your help!?
ByQuestion by Sophia’s Mommy: Ok Mommies, I really really need your help!?
Today was my mothers birthday and my husband and I went over and had cake and ice cream with my parents. All went well till my mother who is 58 today brought up vaccinations,pampers and homemade food etc.
I am 33 weeks pregnant with my first and this is the first grand baby on both sides.
My mom said “Sherry I am begging, please don’t vaccinate my grandaughter. You have no idea what is in the vaccines’. Also please get cloth diapers, it will be so much eaiser and her sensitve skin etc.
She almost had tears in her eyes when I said “I plan on vaccinating but I plan on delayed vaccines”. Nothing I could say would make her feel better.
I understand that my mom has her thoughts, but when I saw her almost tear up over me wanting to vaccinate my daughter, you would of thought I was saying my daughter had died or something.
Then my Mom brought her her God-Daughter Jen who had a baby last year..My mom said Jen doesn’t vaccinate, Jen uses cloth diapers,Jen makes her own food, Jen does this etc etc…and Jen’s baby is perfectly healthy.
Mommies, I want to do what is best for my daughter, But I feel like I am harming her by vaccinating and using pampers. Advice?
I am not against cloth diapers but my husband is and he is in ‘Charge of laundry”. He wants everything washed a certain way…
Best answer:
Answer by нσℓℓу~мσм σf qυιии & α∂∂у
Sorry, but you do what you and your husband think is right for YOUR child. Tell her to keep her nose out of your business.
Give your answer to this question below!
Related posts:
16 Comments
June 10th, 2011 at 12:06 am
well, this will be something you will have to take with a grain of salt, everyone has their parenting methods… the vaccines now a days have been around for over a decade, as well they have been thoroughly tested.. so no worries there… as for cloth diapering its not for everyone, some are able to do it, others may not have the time/money to do it esp when working, its a nice idea too to make your own babyfood, but there are tons of healthy babies out there who eat gerber babyfood and nothing happens to them… your mom will pretty much just have to get over it… its not her baby its your baby
June 10th, 2011 at 12:24 am
Alright, I am a mommy of 4. I vaccinated each of them, and I have always used pampers. As MILLIONS of mommys do these days. Just because that is what they did back when, doesnt mean what us mommies are doing now-a-days is wrong. We are from a different generation and honey, I feel you do what you want to do. You are this childs mother and you should not feel bad for any decision you make. Good luck to you. God bless!
June 10th, 2011 at 1:11 am
I think your mom should back off. Every child is different. Do what you feel best and she will understand.
June 10th, 2011 at 1:12 am
shame on your mom for making you feel this way about your choices. sure, this is her first grandbaby.. but this is YOUR daughter. it is YOUR decisions, not hers.
i dont feel any less competent as a mother just because i got my son vaccinated and use disposable diapers. why should i? i protected him from viruses and im keeping his bum clean.
dont let anyone elses opinions on proper parenting deter you from yours.
June 10th, 2011 at 1:33 am
My mom felt the same way about vaccinations but wasn’t quite so pushy about it as your mom. My daughter is almost 8 weeks old and is the first grandchild for both sides also. I am not ecstatic about vaccines either but the vaccines are made for a reason – it’s because there are still very serious and deadly diseases out there that can kill your baby. It is important to vaccinate against those things. If there wasn’t a serious risk to babies, they wouldn’t still make those vaccines. My daughter is getting all her 2 month vaccines next week
Bottom line – do what you and your hubby think is best for your child.
June 10th, 2011 at 2:27 am
dont be silly…. vaccinating her will keep her safe…. and pampers are just easier….. i vaccinate and i also use pampers….. you do whatever is right to you .. she is your daughter. just do things your way and if your mom doesnt like it.. say i love ya mom but im doin it my way
June 10th, 2011 at 2:37 am
I’m sorry your Mom threw the guilt trip your way so early but its time to stop it now.
Ask her how she’s knows that Jen’s way is the best way/ How did jen become Mom or the World all the sudden?
I raised healthy babies and did all the bad things your mom warns of.
You are the Mom now and she needs to understand you get to make the decisions.
Sorry to say but Mom is way out of line in my opinion.
Don’t let her guilt trip you into going against what you believe and the choices you make.
June 10th, 2011 at 3:16 am
well really in america u half to get her vaccines or she will not b able to go to school when she is older and that’s a must and if u hold off til then she will get all those shots at once and it will prolly make her very sick my friend has seen this happen (shes a social worker) to kids that are from mexico and go to school here. and the pampers will b easier on u buying then i would love to use cloth diapers too but they take alot of work. ur mom shouldn’t b comparing u to this jen every mom is different and she should respect ur wishes and u should respect her opinions. good luck
June 10th, 2011 at 3:18 am
I am a cloth nappy using vaccine nazi!
The vaccines are in part to protect immuno-compromised children from diseases. Plus there really is no reason not to vaccinate if your child doesn’t react, and plenty of reason to vaccinate. The main reason parents don’t get their children vaccinated is fear of Autism- I would far rather see a healthy Autistic child than an intelligent child that has been crippled by polio.
I use cloth nappies/diapers, I love them, I have just purchased a starter kit for making them actually!
I detest disposables- I call them plastic nappies in fact! But I will not try to force a person to try cloth if they don’t want to- I’ll list the advantages, and offer them a chance to try them but if they still want to use the disposables, I’m fine with it. I’d planned on using cloth part time from the start, but after a couple of weeks I came to detest disposables.
I would like to see you at least try the cloth- it is a lot easier than most people think! Although if you are a person with a pathological hatred of the washing machine- go disposables with my blessing!
June 10th, 2011 at 4:06 am
Do what you guys want to do. You are the parents so the decision is ultimately up to you and your husband. Your mother can suggest all she wants, but in the end, you and your husband have the final say.
If you want to do delayed vaccinations go for it. The vaccines have been around long enough that the side effects are known. If they worry you, research them.
Cloth diapering is not for everyone. So you don’t have to do it. You can use disposables if you want to.
You are not going to harm your baby by doing those.
I had a baby a year ago and I vaccinate and use Pampers and my baby is perfectly healthy.
So it just goes to show that there is more than one way to parent and still have a healthy child. Do what YOU want to do, not what your mother wants you to do.
June 10th, 2011 at 4:44 am
To vaccinate or not to vaccinate is a very big issue these days. If I were you I would read up on the issue so you can make an educated decision and whatever you decide you can tell your mother the reasoning behind that decision. Obviously her opinion means a lot to you but ultimately it is your child and you and your husbands decision.
There is a great book out there that I bought because of my own interest in whether or not to vaccinate my babies. I have done so but used an alternate schedule. (Not getting a bunch of shots at one time).
It is called the Vaccine Book and written by Dr. Robert Sears. He has done extensive research on the subject. His whole family has a bunch of great parenting, discipline, breastfeeding, etc. books out there. I found the one I have on amazon.com, I think.
As far as cloth diapers and making your own baby food. Those are also great options but you have so many different ones. Once again I would read up on some of this stuff and decide what works best for you and your baby.
I would also suggest finding a local La Leche League group where you could get together with moms who could help with some of these questions as well as breastfeeding questions, that is if you plan to breastfeed.
Good luck!!
June 10th, 2011 at 5:44 am
do it ur way, u r the mom; tell u appreciate her opinion but will do your own research when the time comes..
June 10th, 2011 at 6:44 am
In my opinion, Vaccines are there to help. especially with the Swine-Flu going around and all the other things its GREAT to do it..and i watched a video saying from i think abc news..Fall and Winter are suppose to be really bad for swine flu and that it targets moreso young kids..its going to be bad! its going to hosptialize alot of people and kill alot. but getting it done is up to you and your hubby! not her. if you are going to do it tell her your not..and the whole cloth diaper thing..thats also your decision.me personally, i use disposable. i never got into the cloth diaper thing…to me, its completely old fashioned and odd. but i didnt give them a try so i dont have any room to talk. Good Luck!
June 10th, 2011 at 7:33 am
ok.. i understand both points. your mother is concerned and i understand why. my friend who is a nurse. saw a vaccine get recalled 3 yrs ago as it caused children to have seizures. But as a Mom i felt it was better to get my child vaccinated. when you talk odds more likely than not your child will have no side effects beside the slight fever. as a mother i felt he would be ok. Another problem with not getting your child vaccinated is that some states. im saying some as i am not positive on all states. but in LA it is seen as a form of child neglect. i would just keep yourself informed. ask the dr the names of the brand of vaccine he will be using on your child! look it up become an informed parent. and in the diaper area. i dont know what to say. my opinion is a child is a lot of work. why spend an extra 15 mins trying to clean up the mess when you could take 1 min with pampers. and hey if she says she doesnt like pampers tell her they are huggies
also remind her that there are 100 of thousands of parents who dont raise their kids that way and they are still perfectly healthy too.
June 10th, 2011 at 8:23 am
Vaccines are not even close to the same category as cloth vs. disposable diapers. So in that sense your mom seems a little crazy. If you want, you can take the middle road with diapers by buying a more natural brand, such as Seventh Generation or Whole Foods 365.
When you mentioned that you would be vaccinating, maybe your mom was reacting like your daughter “had died or something” because she knows that is a real possibility with vaccines.
We all have to make our own decisions on raising our kids, and I know your mom can’t convince you. But please do in-depth research on vaccines and make your own informed decision.
That’s what I did, and my kids are not vaccinated at all. I’m very happy with my decision.
“tamara m,” you wrote: “I would far rather see a healthy Autistic child than an intelligent child that has been crippled by polio.” Well, for starters, autistic children are NOT healthy. Also, the rate of autism in the United States is now 1 in 100, among vaccinated children. That’s one percent! (Which is huge, by the way). Compare that to polio, which ZERO people in the U.S. (vaccinated or not) have gotten since the year 2000, and the only people who got it between 1979 and 2000 got it from the old, live virus oral polio vaccine.
June 10th, 2011 at 8:53 am
Just because one baby is healthy because she eats homemade food and doesn’t vaccinate and uses cloths diapers, certainly doesn’t mean a child isn’t going to be healthy if they don’t do all the same things! Obviously, far, far more parents use disposable diapers and vaccinate than those who don’t…babies aren’t dying or getting sick from it. Sorry to sound harsh, but your mother isn’t living in reality. Did she use cloth diapers and dely vaccination with you? Just curious. LOL